24. Your Soul Work with Prue Blennerhassett

December 1, 2021

In This Episode
Intuitive business strategist and women’s transformation catalyst, Prue Blennerhasset, shares how you can connect with your soul despite the all the noise in the world, and how this can affect your marriage. By leaning into yourself and using the CALM Method by Rebbetzin Bat-Chen Grossman, you can approach your husband and have an amazing marriage to share your gifts with the world.

Highlights
00:56 Meet Prue Blennerhassett all the way from Australia! She is an intuitive business strategist and women’s transformation catalyst who supports women and helps them connect with the deepest part of themselves, their soul.
04:25 There is a lot of noise in the world that can bring about self-doubt, but we are part of a collective transformational journey, where we ask ourselves: What is it that’s true for me? What is it that really matters? What is it that turns my soul on fire? What is it that I’m here to bring forward? Prue shares how we can get in touch with our soul.
06:29 Our gifts are the things we do without thinking. Rebbetzin Bat-Chen believes that the things that come easiest to you are what you’re meant to do.
10:40 Leaning into yourself and your gifts can affect your marriage but in all the right ways.
14:26 In the Marriage Breakthrough Retreat and Marriage Mastermind by Rebbetzin Bat-Chen, she teaches women how to approach their husband in a practical way so your marriage can be better than what it already is.
16:56 One of Rebbetzin Bat-Chen’s clients applied the CALM Method to talk to her husband about what she wanted to do.
21:57 Prue’s business is called Women of Impact. Her podcast is going to be released soon! She also has retreat regularly.
24:25 Rebbetzin Bat-Chen shares that in the Jewish tradition, redemption will be led by women.

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5 Surprising Ways to Improve Your Marriage
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REBBETZIN BAT-CHEN GROSSMAN
Welcome to the Connected For Real Podcast! I’m Rebbetzin Bat-Chen Grossman, a marriage coach for women in business, and my mission is to bring God’s presence into your life, into your marriage, and into your business. Let’s get started. The following is one of the many conversations I had with experts and professionals about real life and how it affects marriage. Let me know your takeaways on Instagram or Facebook, @connectedforreal. Enjoy. And we are live. Welcome, everyone to the Connected for Real Podcast. I’m Rebbetzin Bat-Chen Grossman, and I am a marriage coach for god-centered women in business. Today we have Prue. Go introduce yourself. By the way, she’s from Australia. I am so cool. I have friends in Australia.

PRUE BLENNERHASSETT
I am. Thank you so much for having me. It’s an absolute pleasure. My name is Prue Blennerhassett. I’m an intuitive business strategist and women’s transformation catalyst. I love connecting with women all over the world, so it’s an absolute pleasure to be here with you. Thank you.

REBBETZIN BAT-CHEN GROSSMAN
Thank you. Okay, so we titled this Your Soul Work. Tell me a little bit about that and how we can get in touch with that.

PRUE BLENNERHASSETT
Yeah, for sure. So this is essentially, I guess, the foundation of the work I do in the world is supporting women, to be able to connect with what it is that they’re here to bring forward from the deepest part of them, so from their soul, from that unlimited, infinite part of each of us, what sits within us. I find that and definitely, it’s been true in my own experience that I’ve had my own business for 12 years and for a long time I was working in ways that was kind of like I was just creating things for the market, based on what I felt that the market needed and then selling that. There wasn’t kind of this real connection with who am I and what is it that I’m actually here to bring forward. So what this is really about is connecting in with the energetic signature that we have, that we’re here to share, and being able to bring that forward and have that be reflected in everything that we share in our businesses. So, that’s essentially that soul work is all about. For me, it’s all about supporting women to dive really, really deep into who they are and to be bring that forward for those that they’re here to serve the most. So, with the transformation that they’re here to facilitate, which I termed their zone of divinity.

REBBETZIN BAT-CHEN GROSSMAN
Wow. I love it because I had a call with a friend who said she thinks that this is the thing she should do but then she’s looking at the market and she realizes that teenagers need her more and now there’s so much anxiety in the world. Maybe I should go into anxiety and I was like, “Okay, there is a lot of everything. Stop trying to get the outside world to tell you what to do and just pause.” It’s so noisy out there when you try to be reactive to the world. It’s very exhausting.

PRUE BLENNERHASSETT
Yeah, absolutely, and you’re right there’s so much noise out there. I often see that with clients or women that they’ll do their website and then almost immediately, they’ll feel like they need to change their website and then I need to change it again. So, it’s all these busy work spent in upgrading the profile and who they are in their messaging because it’s not coming from the truth of who they are. It’s coming from, just like you were saying, that external place and this is a reflection of this kind of sense of seeking external validation over internal validation, which is a big thing society worldwide for all of us and I think it’s part of our individual and collective transformational journey—is to come back to ourselves and to really check in and be like, “Okay, what is it that’s true for me? What is it that really matters? What is it that turns my soul on fire? What is it that I’m here to bring forward?”

REBBETZIN BAT-CHEN GROSSMAN
I love that. I love it. So inspirational. Okay, how do people do that? How do you get in touch with your soul? How do you find what you’re here to do?

PRUE BLENNERHASSETT
So, I think that there are clues. There’s lots of clues. So, looking at who you are right now—so not who you were, not who you have been, not who other people think you are but who are you right now at the depths of your soul, also looking at what are the words that people use to describe you, what are the things that people naturally come to you for help for—all of these kinds of things and then when we look at our own transformational journeys, when we look at our own stories, there is often a reflection in who we want to support and the transformation that we’re best positioned to facilitate for them. There’s often clues in our own journey. So what is it that we’ve overcome, that we’ve learned, that we’ve embodied in our own journey that’s had us come to this place of transformation around a particular thing that has been really, really important to us because when we’re able to identify what that is and if that is something that feels like, “Oh my God, yes.” Absolutely on fire inside of us then and we would do it even if we weren’t getting paid anything. We would still be doing what we’re doing because it’s what we love to do. This is what we want, right? This is what creates sustainable business for us when we’re doing something that feels so incredibly good.

REBBETZIN BAT-CHEN GROSSMAN
Isn’t that ironic that most people won’t do that thing that they would do anyway because they don’t think that it’s a business idea? Like, “I love helping people,” blah, blah, blah, “But people don’t pay you to help them. That’s not a thing.” So, it’s like, “Okay, you don’t know it’s a thing so you’re not willing to make it a thing.” It’s almost like we’re in our own way.

PRUE BLENNERHASSETT
Yeah. Totally, and I think a part of that is because one of the one of the things that I see is that familiarity breeds contempt and especially, in relation to our soul work. So, we know ourselves so well and we know our gifts. They’re our gifts, right? We do them without thinking, without needing to perceive or plan anything. Like it’s just there. It’s a natural part of us.

REBBETZIN BAT-CHEN GROSSMAN
They’re so easy to you that you don’t look. You don’t see them. I find that the thing that comes the easiest to you is usually the thing you’re meant to do, and it’s usually the thing that people are like, “But that’s just so easy. That’s not work.”

PRUE BLENNERHASSETT
Right. Yeah, yeah, yeah. And another part of it is that we can’t see our own brilliance. Even me being an intuitive business strategist, like I’m a business coach essentially. I have other business coaches. I have a lot of people that support me in my business to be able to do the things that I support other people to do in their businesses, right? Because we’re when we’re in our own business, we can’t see everything. We have blind spots, so it’s really important to get that support. So I guess the piece of magic that I feel I ultimately bring to my clients is being able to see them at the deepest level and extract the golden threads and the pieces of their story and who they are that make their work incredible, like absolutely show stopping because it is. It’s in each and every one of us, but it’s a part of our story. It’s a part of our gifts. It’s a part of our talents and it’s about being able to weed that out and put it all together in a way that has the offer and the messaging and everything like that being just like a show stopper and feeling so incredibly soul aligned for the business owner as well.

REBBETZIN BAT-CHEN GROSSMAN
I love it. I love it because most people are having such a hard time with their business— what to say all the copy, all the stuff, and we were just talking about delegating. Sometimes you’re just like, “Here. Write my copy for me. I’m sure you’ll do better,” but really, it’s like telling someone to declutter your house for you. You can’t. You cannot delegate certain things. You will write the best copy when it comes from you in this flow. Yesterday, we had a training and someone said, “But I don’t know how to come up with content,” and he said, “If I gave you a mic right now and said talk about something for 15 minutes straight without stopping, what would you talk about?” Right? Because it’s just it comes out of you. When you’re in alignment, there’s just no way to stop it instead of force it. You’re just allowing it to come out. There’s a totally different energy to it.

PRUE BLENNERHASSETT
Yeah, totally agree, and you can really feel that difference, can’t you? When it’s coming from this place of inspiration rather than coming from this place of like, “Oh my God. I’ve got to create something. It’s so hard to kind of think.” It’s really, really different and there is this sacred intersection between who we are at the deepest level and those that we’re here to serve and the messaging that that crosses over those two places. It’s really, really powerful.

REBBETZIN BAT-CHEN GROSSMAN
Right. Because once you get really clear on what you’re here to do, then it’s much easier to find the people who are here to do it with. We almost magnet to you in a way that, “Yes, you said exactly what I needed to hear. You put my thoughts into words that type of energy.”

PRUE BLENNERHASSETT
Yeah, yeah. Absolutely and I think as well that when we’re coming from that really soul aligned place and we’re doing what we were put on this planet to do, that we light up, right? Our light is shining because we’re like, “Yes. This is it. It’s just so good loving life,” and again in that space of , “I would do this even if I wasn’t getting paid.” like that kind of experience. And, people feel that energy. They feel it through our words. They feel it through seeing us on video. They feel it through everything. So it’s important.

REBBETZIN BAT-CHEN GROSSMAN
I love it. Okay, let’s get into how the work affects marriage because I am a marriage coach. This is my passion. This is what fascinates me because it really does completely change the entire relationship and in my opinion it’s in a good way. When you really lean into yourself, it is always in the right way.

PRUE BLENNERHASSETT
Yeah, so it definitely ends up being in a good way. Often, there’s a little bit of challenge on the road to it feeling really good so I know in my own personal experience when I was at this real crossroads in my business. I was like, “Oh my God.” I went to my partner and I wanted to buy a house. I wanted to have a baby. We needed to make sure that we had financial security. I wasn’t earning the money that I wanted to in my business and I was like, “Something has to change.” I was desperately in that space of something has to change, and I believed in myself and I felt the vision of what was possible for me and I chose to invest in myself with a high ticket coach, which at the time was 5k us so it wasn’t heaps of money but it was heaps of money to me, and I didn’t have the money and I had to borrow it from my mom and pay her back over 12 months. [It] was a huge deal this is only like three years ago and me making that decision, I kind of made the decision despite my partner’s concerns and we ended up separating for two or three months because I chose myself and I chose to invest in myself and my future and my business and what I saw was possible. So, this is the kind of thing that I see for women that can happen when they begin to step into their power, when they begin to step into choosing themselves, there can be this kind a little bit of a wobble in the relationship because it’s kind of like, “Whoa.” All of a sudden she’s having stronger boundaries and she’s stepping into her power, and she’s maybe not accepting the things as easily as she used to and what I’ve noticed is that since I’ve kind of moved into a place of having more and more success in my business, and this year we’ve kind of reached multi-six figures which is a huge deal for me when I fast forward from three years ago, when I was telling you I couldn’t afford—couldn’t rub the sense together to do a 5k investment, so a huge deal, and what this has allowed is that what it’s made possible is that he doesn’t have to feel like he is shouldering the burden of being the provider and being the protector and all of those kinds of things for our existing family. He’s got two boys that we have week on, week off and for our future family that we’re building, so it’s kind of like it takes the pressure off and I know from my clients, one of my divine clients, she had a five-figure launch and after that launch, her husband decided—he was like, “Whoa. Oh my God. You can actually earn this incredible money from your healing, from your sacred work,” and she was like, “Yes.” So he actually— workaholic or hard worker, he actually decided to take one day off a fortnight so he works one day less a fortnight, which is a huge deal for him and my client she was absolutely just so beside herself that this was made possible from what she was doing. So that’s the highs and the lows of the shifts that I’ve recognized both in my own story and that of my clients as well.

REBBETZIN BAT-CHEN GROSSMAN
So, I want to tell you a little bit when I do my retreat and I launch my Mastermind, I coach them through how to approach their husband because of that exact thing, where if you come from a place of, “Listen. This is what I’m doing. I’ve decided to invest in myself and too bad on you,” Well, it’s not the right approach. You might get into trouble but if you come as asking, “Oh, can you please make this possible for me? It’s the only way I can blah, blah, blah.” Also, it’s icky. It’s like you’re looking for him to let you. It’s not a place. So there’s the two extremes where if you’re too beggy and too icky about it, he’s not gonna be interested in giving you anything. It just feels yucky and if you come and be like, “Boom! I’ve put a stick on the ground and I am doing this thing—” not a good approach either. So there’s something in the middle that feels really right where you are really true to yourself and clear with yourself first because that, by the way, is part of my calm method is Connect with yourself is the C, the day one. Get really in touch with is this the right thing for me? First, make your own decision. Get really clear, get really in touch with yourself, then, “Okay, I’m ready to go approach my husband. Once I am grounded and know what I want, I come to him, ‘Listen. We are partners. I appreciate what you have to say. I know you want the best for me. I’m telling you this is what I need. I know this is what’s calling me. I want this.’” Right? and then you just listen for what he says. Some of the guys—most of the guys will be like, “What? That’s too expensive. What do you think you’re doing? This is ridiculous. You’ve never done this before,” right? Because it’s scary to invest in yourself, so it’s even scarier when somebody else is investing in themselves with your money. They get into a little panic and then you say, “Listen. This is what we learned in the in the CALM Method, which is basically Connect to yourself, Ask for abundance, Listen for the answer, and then Master a higher level of consciousness,” That’s my CALM Method. Yeah so it’s like, “I connected to myself. I asked you. I asked God. I am now ready to listen. What is the actual result going to be like? What is going to actually happen?” Because how do I know what God wants is through reality. So if my husband sees that it’s possible, then things are going to move forward, which happened to one of my clients. She said, “You just sleep on it, and let’s see what happens. We’ll pray. We’ll decide tomorrow,” and that morning she got an email that one of the clients that a long, long time ago owed her money paid her up front for all three months she had owed her for. Her husband’s like, “Okay, you go do that thing you said you’re gonna do—” Even before she committed what she had learned in the retreat had already taken its effect and she was so glad. The other thing that’s coming up for me. She asked her husband twice and he said no, and then she stood by the door one night and said to him, “I am going to ask one last time because I know this is calling me and I know this is what I want and I know what this is what I need but I’m not gonna do it without your permission because we’re together in this. So I’m asking one last time and after now, I’m never gonna ask again. Can I go and do it?” and he was like, “Fine. Do what you want.” Because he felt that she was really committed and now, six months later, it was incredible. Her husband wants her notes. He says it’s not fair that I only work with women, and he wanted to be a part of what’s going on because he sees who she’s become and how she leaned into her confidence and her leadership and he says his success in his business is thanks to her and she’s like, [mind-blown]. So there’s a way to approach it that won’t feel so conflicting, and that’s really my approach is also don’t let it shake up your marriage to the point that it’s not worth going for your purpose but then again, don’t give up your purpose so that it’s not you’re not doing what you’re here to do. Marriage, the business and they have to align and when they align to God, then everything else sort of just falls into place. That is, by the way, how I approach the very delicate subject.

PRUE BLENNERHASSETT
Yes. Oh, it’s so awesome. I love it. I love that and I love hearing about your client’s experience as well. That’s just incredible.

REBBETZIN BAT-CHEN GROSSMAN
You know what’s crazy? When I signed up for the high ticket offer that is a year program that I’m part of because, like you said, you could be helping other people but if you don’t have a mirror to show you what’s on your face, you’ll never be able to you know— so I signed up almost a year ago and when I wanted to do it I came and I told my husband, “ I’m totally sold. This is what I need,” and I said, “This is the thing that’s stopping me. I’m so scared to lean into my leadership role. I am so scared to become a leader,” and so I gave him the opportunity, not only, “Hey, this is so much money. What do you say?” but more like, “This is what’s going on inside me. My inner world is shaking up because I am [inaudible].” and so he turned to me and said, “But this is what God made you for. If this is your fear, then put the fear aside and do it,” and it blew everybody—

PRUE BLENNERHASSETT
And that is that is fantastic because that takes the money out of the equation exactly.

REBBETZIN BAT-CHEN GROSSMAN
And then he was like, “What are you doing about the money?” I’m like, “Forget it. Don’t worry about it. I just I took out a loan from my sister and it’s gonna be fine,” but it was I almost distracted his brain from thinking about all the details and the technicalities, not because I was trying to play a game. It wasn’t like I had a strategy. My insides were talking like, “Here is the issue. Really, it’s not about the money. It’s about the fear, about me becoming somebody, and it’s scary. As a husband, he was able to support me in that emotional rollercoaster thing. It doesn’t matter if I would have signed up or not. That was worth all the everything.

PRUE BLENNERHASSETT
Totally. So beautiful. So beautiful. I love that.

REBBETZIN BAT-CHEN GROSSMAN
Thank you. Yeah, I love it too. It’s like when somebody says, “Oh, I love how your husband is.” I’m like, “Yeah, me too. I love him very much.” It was really great to feel that support. Okay, Prue, tell us how people can work with you, how they could find you and your amazing work because this is such a fun conversation. I love that we’re not talking like surface level. It’s so deep.

PRUE BLENNERHASSETT
I don’t really do surface level.

REBBETZIN BAT-CHEN GROSSMAN
I don’t either. I don’t know how. I like it I get it. It drains me.

PRUE BLENNERHASSETT
That’s right. Ain’t nobody got time for that.

REBBETZIN BAT-CHEN GROSSMAN
Yeah, it drains me when I have to talk surface level. It’s like, “Oh, hi. How have you been?” “Oh, yeah. I’m great. Okay.” I get stomachaches from it. I actually did the work on stomach aches and realized that it wasn’t from that. I don’t get stomach aches much anymore. It’s just awareness.

PRUE BLENNERHASSETT
My business is called Women of Impact and the website is womenofimpact.com.au. We have a retreat coming up at the end of November, and we run retreats semi-regularly, and there can be you can find all the details out at womenofimpact.com.au/retreat, and, I’m just about to launch my podcast which is called Change Gamer on Anchor and Spotify, and on Apple iTunes as well. So they’re probably the two best places to find me at the moment.

REBBETZIN BAT-CHEN GROSSMAN
That’s really cool. Why did you choose that name?

PRUE BLENNERHASSETT
Because it’s for women who are changing the game or playing it differently. I do believe that women are one of the greatest untapped resources on the planet. It’s why I’m so passionate about working with women. I also believe that stepping into our soul work and delivering that is one of the best ways that we can bring our light and our gifts to the world, so in terms of looking at the transformation that we seek outside, let’s start on the inside and then bring that signature out to the world. So, yes. That’s why the name—

REBBETZIN BAT-CHEN GROSSMAN
I want to support what you’re saying and say that I think in the Jewish world, there’s this thing that when it’s time for redemption, when there’s a higher level of consciousness that’s going to be coming to the world, it’s going to be led by women, and it’s such an amazing thing to see it actually happening. It’s a communal thing. It’s a female energy that’s just raising level of awareness, bringing God into the world, there’s something so beautiful about it. It can only happen when you do it from your soul work because trying to force is not the name of the game anymore, and I love that. I love the name, that’s why I asked you about it because that’s one of the things that I had to work through was I always was the good girl, the oldest and the Rabbi’s daughter and everybody’s looking at me, so I wanted to do everything right and I realized the way people are telling me to do business is not working for me. I can’t just give a taste then have them hope to be hungry for more. I need to give it all. I need to do it my way, and it’s been so successful because I get in touch with that. So, yeah I like what you’re saying and really in line with that.

PRUE BLENNERHASSETT
Yeah, that’s amazing. Can I ask you a quick question?

REBBETZIN BAT-CHEN GROSSMAN
Yeah.

PRUE BLENNERHASSETT
So when you say that in the Jewish tradition that the redemption will be led by women, is it a one-off event or is it something that happens multiple times? Can you speak a little bit more about that?

REBBETZIN BAT-CHEN GROSSMAN
The redemption is a final redemption. There’s not going to be like many of them. There’s the peak of what this world is all about is connect to God and bring Him into the world, to create that real partnership and awareness. So it’s going to be coming from a place of higher consciousness. It’s going to be coming from not running on a wheel away, staying busy—all of that is just keeping you away from the consciousness. We are in that already.

PRUE BLENNERHASSETT
I think it’s what the spiritual community would refer to as the ascension process. It sounds like the similar kind of thing. Yeah.

REBBETZIN BAT-CHEN GROSSMAN
It sounds like it. I’ve never heard of it but I’m sure that—

PRUE BLENNERHASSETT
Ascension, redemption.

REBBETZIN BAT-CHEN GROSSMAN
I think that globally and it’s a universal concept because it grew, so I don’t think that there’s any conflicting thoughts about it. There is something amazing that’s happening in the world and with history you see it getting stronger and stronger, and I think now we’re at the peak of that movement getting strength and really supporting itself. Like you have men leaving their jobs to support their wives, families creating different ecosystems because things are actually changing. The robotic whatever was happening until now is just not working anymore.

PRUE BLENNERHASSETT
I love it. Thank you. Amazing.

REBBETZIN BAT-CHEN GROSSMAN
Thank you for asking. That was fun.

PRUE BLENNERHASSETT
Thanks for sharing. Super cool.

REBBETZIN BAT-CHEN GROSSMAN
Yeah. Oh, thank you very much to Prue. Thank you all. And that’s it! Thank you for listening to the very end. I would love if you can leave a review and subscribe to the podcast. Those are things that tell the algorithm, this is a good podcast and make sure to suggest it to others. Wouldn’t it be amazing if more people became more connected for real? And now, take a moment and think of someone who might benefit from this episode. Can you share it with them? I am Rebbetzin Bat-Chen Grossman from connectedforreal.com. Thank you so much for listening, and don’t forget, you can be connected for real.

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