187. Process Emotions and Light Up the World – Mourning the Murder of Tze’ela Gez HYD

Transcript:

 Welcome to the Connected For Real podcast. I’m Rebbetzin Bat-Chen Grossman, a marriage coach for women in business. And my mission is to bring God’s presence into your life, into your marriage and into your business. Let’s get started. 

 Usually I start with a big welcome, but today  I would rather not welcome you. 

I would rather be, uh,  in a lot of other things doing, teaching, a lot of other things. So  welcome to  the live workshop  that I called, how to process Emotions and Light Up the World.  We are grieving the murder of Tze’ela Gez

which is my sister-in-law.  My brother  was married to Teela for 11 years. They have four boys now. Three boys and this baby who we’re all praying for  Ravi, em, Ben.  And, uh, I felt the need to process my own emotions. And I felt the need to be here for all of you to process the emotions alongside me and with me.

And,  you know, in order to do exactly what Tze’ela was really  focused on,  which was 

which, uh, going through the dark and coming out the other side.  Her  training, like she started out as a dancer and she learned to dance.  By the way, I lost my voice from the stress. And I almost canceled today, and I prayed that I shouldn’t have to cancel because I feel,  I feel the need to be here. And I appreciate that all of you are here. 

And I, we really, really, I say we because it’s not just me, it’s the entire family. We feel your presence with us very much. We appreciate it.  Uh, my mother is, explain, you know, she described it as a gigantic boulder that fell on us and slowly with each person who comes to visit and who sends love and, and who prays, it feels like it’s shrinking. 

Uh, for me, I started collecting hugs,  and that’s what I’ve been doing all week, is just trying to,  uh, melt away the pain that’s sitting right here.  And, uh.  This morning I woke up without a voice and I thought,  does God want me to not speak? Like, what am I supposed to do now?  And all day I’ve just been like, you know, trying to give it love, drinking tea,  taking deep breaths, just trying to be present and  receive the guidance.

Am I supposed to cancel and reschedule or am I supposed to actually show up? And here we are. So I’m, I’m really grateful to God that, you know, even this has,  everything has its, uh, time and place in the exact way it needs to be done. 

So I’d te I was a dancer. She then went to do her master’s in therapy through movement,  and she really got into the movement therapy and into the therapy in general, just. From seeing the results that it was  helping people. And I loved the way she described the stories of, of what she’s doing and what,  what she’s seeing. 

People who were in a lot of chronic pain, people who were going through emotional distress,  they saw  miracles through the work with her.  And  every time she was just thirsty for more and thirsty to find all the modalities and all the tools and all the skills and all the things that could really  get people better results. 

And the more she studied and the more she learned, the more specific she got about what types of things that she can help with that other people are not able to help with  certain traumas. Uh. Certain abuse, certain 

experiences  that she felt were  just a  pathway to the light.  And she really was very adamant that people get the help and get through it because you should not suffer. You can choose to live differently.  You can commit to finding a way through the pain. And a lot of what she talked about is not to avoid the pain and not to try to run away from it, and not to try to like push it away or bottle it in and really allow yourself to, 

to process it and to come out the other way and to find the light and to live  in the light. And she lived it because she.  Had a hard life. She had a lot of things that,  every single one of those things that I could think of, and I only know her for 11 years.  These were things that anybody, just for one of them could have been like, throw your whole life out.

Be like, ah, it’s not worth it. I’m just gonna sit here and suffer and cry and be depressed and be, you know, miserable.  And she had like layers and layers of difficulties. Um, even just the last pregnancy was  constantly choosing to want to be pregnant and to want to be calm and for the sake of the baby to just breathe and be present. 

She was so excited about being pregnant. It was six years since the last baby.  Uh, and this was, this was something that she was really.  I really excited about and so like seeing her live her life  and seeing that she really lived what she taught. 

She also started teaching other therapists. The modalities that she found were the most helpful.  She  worked one-on-one with psychologists and therapists and coaches and people who are helping.  And she, there is, you know, in the Shiva, my brother said that there was a psychologist in America,  in Florida who was a psychologist for 30 years and his specialty was trauma  And he told her that what he learned from her was more  powerful  and helpful.

Than what he’s been learning the last 30 years. So it just shows a little bit of what Tela was 

for a while. I’ve been feeling like there is a breakthrough coming and I was looking forward to something like a great light coming into the world. I felt like there was just gonna be this, like,  I don’t know how I felt it, I felt something was like really, like we were at the edge of something big  and I’m not sure I would’ve been so like  enthusiastic about it if I would’ve known it’s gonna be this way. 

But really, my brother laughs, laughs and cries, you know, you know how he is, you said chia and you’re like  on a rollercoaster of emotions and you’re trying to help yourself pick up.  And so he, he said that it was the best investment he ever made.  Uh, buying that course that teaches you how to make videos because it really,  it made it possible for her to be here with us and give us the strength we need right now.

Just being able to watch  the things that she’s saying,  the videos that she made, the points that so powerful for us to remember.  People say, be strong, be strong. But really it’s about the little things. It’s about your breath. It’s about being able to get  into your body. And so that’s what we’re going to do today. 

I’m also going to introduce myself. For those of you who don’t know me,  I thought I was famous, but, you know,  definitely outweighed, um, you know, the viral thing.  Uh, my brother says she had such a hard time with marketing and she always wanted to reach more people, and now she finally went viral.  So we’re really proud of her. 

And it, it’s,  so I’m gonna introduce myself and I am not even apologizing for my brain being like gum  because, uh,  obviously this is not how I always am. And  uh, and it’s understandable ’cause I’m doing this like right after Shiva for a reason. It’s important for me. People told me I could take a break.

Don’t show up, it’s fine. Let people show up for you.  But the way that I heal myself is by showing up for others. And so this is a win-win.  And so thank you for showing up for me so I can show up for you.  So I’m Robert Batan Grossman. I’m married to Rabbi Avi Grossman. Hanz is my brother. 

I am a marriage coach for women in business. I very much like Tela  Am in the helping profession.  I help women who are married  to create the balance between the calling that makes them want to go and do and show up and be that light  and their responsibilities and the commitments and the things that you want to do for God’s sake, but are sometimes,  um, less exciting, sometimes heavier, sometimes, you know, sort of  un  not as, not as calling as your calling, you know? 

Ah,  you’re the same joyful, nurturing person now, as always. Thank you.  I. 

Thank you very much. Very sweet.  Um, so he says, I shouldn’t pretend I’m happy go lucky if I’m not, and you know, you’re here with me in the pain. I appreciate that and I’m not pretending This is how I,  um, my, my protective mechanism is just to smile at everything. So I am showing exactly what is happening on the inside.

I’m like holding both emotions simultaneously.  It’s very exciting.  Um, you know, they say a DHD in women is not in the way that they act. They’re not hyper on the outside. It’s the brain that’s hyper on the inside. I don’t think I’m A-D-H-D-I don’t think any of you are. ’cause I hate labels. And I, I don’t think that we’re gonna go there now, but  I just like, I wanna bring your awareness to the fact that it’s okay to have a lot of noise and a lot of different emotions and a lot of different things going on at the same time.

So thank you for the permission to, uh, be myself. I am exactly as I am and I appreciate you.  And so my specialty is marriage. I only work with women. I help you find the balance. Go after your calling, find your calling if it’s unclear to you, and really  make it. Make it come, come to life. So my business is called connected for real because I am extremely connected.

I don’t know if you noticed My brother is the same way.  I think it’s in the genes. There’s something about our family, thank God that we grew up with the very  present, God  just, there’s just like a presence and  awareness that, that he’s right here, right now at all times.  Of course, we too have our disconnects and our moments, but it was something natural.

It was a language in our house to ask God, where are the shoes? We’re looking for the library book. We’re missing something. Right? And we would say it out loud and speak it, or even scream it like, God, we need your help. We don’t have the shoes. We need to get out on time. And so it’s just the language that we speak at home.

It is something that came to me very naturally and I thought it was normal.  And eventually I realized that it’s not. And a lot of people are looking to find the practical ways of living with God and the practical things that can be done in order to bring God into our lives. That that really became the focus of my business.

So connected  for real. Okay. Connected for real is the way that  I do everything. So we’re going to have  a very, uh, beautiful experience with a meditation and,  and the processing. And then, uh, we’re also going to walk out of here with very practical ways to help ourselves, to help others to light up the world, to be inspired and continue Telas legacy. 

So. 

I would love to hear from you on the chat just to make sure that you’re all with me.  Um,  you could tell me where you’re from ’cause that’s exciting to see. It always surprises me when there’s a lot of different countries and a lot of different locations. That makes me really happy. 

Thank you.  Thank you. Thank you.  It’s really beautiful.  Totally with you. Yay.  Okay, let’s see. Let’s talk about the way we process. First,  I want to explain a little bit before we get into the meditation.  We have a body and a soul. 

God created it that way  on purpose,  just like a marriage,  you don’t always get along.  You’re not always on the same team.  You’re trying to make it work, but,  uh, you know,  it’s, it’s complicated.  And that’s something that Elia used to always say. It’s complicated. She really saw the person so whole that sometimes 

you need to see the whole brand. I’m gonna keep going on tangents because it’s just gonna keep coming. So be with me. 

So the body can’t live here in the. 

Unmute. We’re back.  So the tech is crying too. Isn’t that awesome?  God is with us.  We’re back. Uh, your body can’t live here in this world without your soul. Your soul cannot be here in this world without your body. They need each other and they need to work together in order for you to do your purpose in this world.

So far, so good. Thumbs up. Great.  So now that we understand this, how do we  communicate, right? We said, my specialty is marriage. I’m gonna keep bringing marriage in here because that is what I talk about in your marriage. What do people tell you? Communication skills. It’s really important to communicate so that you know what to expect so that you know what’s going on so that you know what you need so that you, you know how to interact with whatever is coming your way.

And this, in this situation too, we have our body, we have our soul, and they’re trying to work together to reach the goal.  And along the way, there’s a lot of misunderstandings. There’s a lot of silly fights, there’s a lot of weird,  you know, things that we go through.  And so I really want us to learn how, how to,  how to realign, how to balance, how to find that place where we can meet. 

And so I want you to just, I wanna bring awareness to something really awesome about your body.  You know how God is  haya,  he’s past, present, and future.  There is no time to, God is  He is the one who created time.  We talk about this in my time management training.  He created the time for us to be able to see the process.

Okay? So your body, on the other hand, is only present.  It is only present. So we have your thoughts and your memories and your projections. Those go back and forth and present and past and future when you’re in suffering. By the way, what’s happening is past, future, past, future, trying to be present, but not.

Okay.  Suffering is all about remembering what happened and then projecting into the future. And then you’re suffering because you’re worried, because you’re scared, because you’re anxious.  So in order to get out of that suffering in your head of past future,  you need to get present. And your body is the only thing  that is a hundred percent present.

It does not have a past, and it does not have a future. It has only right now.  So if you ever want to get back  into the present, if you wanna just sort of  calm your body, calm your mind, you get into your body,  okay. 

So I wanna just do a body scan really quick. I’m getting a little bit of a feeling that we all need this. So take a deep breath. You can do this with your eyes opened or closed. You could just  be yourself. Do what works for you. I give you full permission. There are no rules around here.  Take a deep breath 

and the exhale, just arrive a little bit more. 

I want you to start scanning your body from the top of your head  down your face, forehead,  jaw,  really relax. Whatever you can  feel. Your neck,  your shoulders,  your arms,  your torso.  Breathe into your stomach, 

feel your hips and your legs, 

and bring your awareness to whatever is holding you. If you’re sitting, if your feet are on the ground,  there is always support.  You’re always held. 

And from that place of being held and supported  and grounded,  you could bring the scan back, back up,  and drink up the strength,  the energy, the positivity,  the hope. 

Through your legs with every breath,  you feel it  really working. 

Sorry. 

If you feel any aches, any pains,  any tickles in your throat like mine,  yeah. 

Those are the ways for your body to communicate 

and it’s just fine.  Be with it. 

I want you to bring awareness to the fact that  sometimes our body feels tight  or resistant, 

and whatever is happening in our body 

is trying to tell us something. But because we haven’t listened for so long, maybe we’ve ignored it. Maybe we’re trying to push it away. Maybe we take a pill and say, I’m just gonna get through this.  Bye.  Masking it, 

so it’s okay if your body isn’t ready to talk yet, because it’s part of the process  and trust the process, and there’s no judgment 

on the acceptance and love.  Don’t let yourself shut down  just because  the communication isn’t  as you want it to be. 

For those who are married, and unlike my marriage examples, it’s like when you have,  in the beginning, you’re all excited and you’re talking about everything, and you tell each other everything, and you talk da, da, da, and like all the stories and all the details and all the things, and eventually you pick up on what.

Is being heard and what isn’t and what is important to your husband or partner or whatever. You guys might be men,  uh, wife.  And uh,  and you start to learn where to shut down on your own  ability to communicate.  And that’s okay. It’s part of the process.  I say marriage is like, you know, there’s a, the first layer where you’re all like, yay, we’re in love.

And then you’re driving through that and you start getting into the, 

the very dry land of desert and everybody’s parked and they’re like, this is how it is. Welcome to marriage. Just park your car right here. So I just wanna warn you, don’t park the car. Keep going, keep driving. There’s more  if you get through it and you will.  There’s another amazing layer  of real connection that could not have been  reached, if not through. 

So trust. Trust the hard times,  trust the process.  Get whatever help you need. If you need a map, if you need a guide, if you need a, you know, whatever,  a handheld  get through it because there’s something amazing on the other side, and that’s where the fireworks are, and that’s where the gorgeous scenery is.

That’s where it’s at. So please don’t stop. Same with  learning your body  and allowing it to get louder with time. The more you arrive and let it, 

hmm. 

So we’re bringing awareness into our new relationship with our body,  whatever it was until now,  that’s in the past,  and we’ve just opened up a new page  and feeling differently  and allowing  and arriving  and becoming a lot more attentive.  And so if you’re still in the 

meditation, I’m gonna call it, I don’t know what else to call it,  or you can just get back into it, take a deep breath.  The next step is to bring God into it.  And so if you  visualize the crown of your head. 

It’s almost like there’s  a connection coming up straight to God, 

and you can strengthen that  and light it up  and widen it  and strengthen it,  and you can really breathe into that 

and watch how the light starts to 

enter your body through the crown of your head through this pipeline that we’ve just become aware of  and is coming in  and is starting to  fill you with light.  With healing, 

with love, 

with a new way of experiencing, 

your soul  is directly  connected  to receiving answers  through this pipeline.  And because it does not have a mouthpiece,  it uses the body  as the mouthpiece. 

And so a lot of times  you’re not going to know the difference between your body. Talking, I’m hungry, something hurts. I’m tired.  And your soul speaking.  I have a stomach ache.  I need attention.  Something’s, you know, sitting on my shoulders,  something’s weighing on me.  And you get to learn the skills of really finding and fine tuning 

what is my soul trying to say  through this, through my body. 

So tap into your body.  Start to find maybe a clue  or a cue  of what  your body needs 

in order to heal.  In order to  become 

capable of moving forward 

and what your soul needs. 

And I wanna get a little bit more specific about  this whole week that we’ve all been experiencing.  The shock,  the pain, 

the horror, 

the nightmares, the overthinking,  the anxiety,  the fear. 

I want you to find where that lives in your body 

and breathe into it. 

Find that place. Find that  pain. 

See what it looks like, 

what  color it is. 

What is it made of? 

And I want you to use your imagination 

to really feel, let your body give you the answers 

and maybe put your hands on where you feel the pain. For me, it’s right here 

and together we’re going to  go through it.  So I want you to trust me.  I’m right here with you.  We’re all together. 

You are safe,  and I want you to start turning on  the sound  of the pain, 

what it’s saying, 

what it’s whispering, 

what you would rather not hear, 

what you think is better left  unseen, 

but it’s really important  and we’ve created a container  where we’re going through it  and we’re going to come back the other way out.  Back through, out  to the light.  So trust  that it’s going to be okay  and start to raise the volume  on the pain 

on what it’s trying to teach you, 

on what you, it it thinks it needs to protect you from 

turn the dial,  feel it more,  feel the intensity 

for me it’s spreading.  Maybe it’s doing that for you.  Let it.  You’re safe. It will not take over. It just needs to 

communicate. It needs to tell you how big it is.  It needs to tell you about the dangers, 

and it’s okay.  Raise the volume a little more. 

It’s getting harder to hold, harder to feel  harder to be with 

that you’re strong 

and you can breathe through it, 

and you can exhale. 

And you can raise the volume on what it’s trying to say because it’s important for you to hear. 

Raise it more.  Raise it more.  Bring it up,  feel the pain, 

feel it more, stronger,  harder. 

Feel free to make whatever noise is coming out with the pain through the pain.  We’re going to take it for a couple of seconds all the way up to a 10. I want you to feel it all the way and burn through the pain. 

You can do this one more time  and put your hands on it  and take the pain out  and yank it out. Bring out whatever this thing looks like.  Really see it.  Pull it out of you.  Hold it in your hands. If there’s anything left, just yank it out. Collect it all. Let’s go. Let’s go. You can do it.  Ah,  bring it to your hands and start to rub them.

Rub, rub, rub, rub.  I want to hear your hands rubbing,  massaging it,  changing its shape. Really squishing it.  God does not want us to stay in this state. He wants us to learn what we need to learn. He wants us to  get the lessons we need to get. He wants us to find the light, so let’s go. Massage it hard, hard, your hands together.

Let’s go hard and rub it. Rub it, rub it, rub it. 

Exhale while you rub.  Faster, faster, faster, faster. Feel the energy in your hands getting hot.  Take a deep breath.  Exhale,  slow it down.  Don’t open your eyes. Open your hands. See what you’ve got.  It changed. 

Notice how beautiful this is  in your hands. There is a gift. 

It’s the gift that came through the pain. I want you to take it and put it up on the crown of your head  and let it melt into your body. 

Bring your hands to your heart and let it really  absorb. 

Take a deep breath for the exhale. Are you ready?  We’re all going to take a loud exhale.  Ah, 

one more time.  Fill yourself up. Ah, 

it was hard.  And I want you now to do that body scan one more time and find 

all the healing, the spots where God  patched,  soothed,  healed,  lit up. 

Open up your hands and stretch them all the way out. All the way out. All the way out. And  send love  to all the people who need it right now.  And bring your hands and  give a hug 

and bring yourself the love  that you need right now. In this moment  we’re doing do, we’re going to do that one more time. If you wanna play some brain yoga, notice which hand is on top ’cause we’re switching.  Stretch. Stretch, stretch.  Open up the receive God’s light, God’s guidance, God’s help And bring it in. 

Hmm. 

To allow you to say, to tap like this,  find balance,  help your body  arrive 

ah, 

slowly. When you’re ready, you can stretch. You can start to bring movement to your body, to your hands.  You can move side to side if you want.  Whatever helps you bring awareness back into this moment  and into this chair,  into this room. 

When you’re ready, you can open up your eyes slowly. 

If you wanna take a moment to write down 

what you feel,  how this was, 

I’m grateful for you. 

You’re welcome. 

Put in the chat a word. 

What is happening right now for you? 

Healing  energy 

struggle.  Relieved 

sorrow, sad. Release, warmth.  Emotional,  evaporated. 

Loose acceptance, belonging.  Permission to feel and getting chills. 

Very relaxed. Emptying,  surrender. 

Um, and surrender. 

I want you to remind you that this is a journey  and the roller rollercoaster is real.  All of it  is real  hope.  Thanks for having good people in the world,  thankful for having good people in the world. Me too,  me too.  You know what amazing people we have in this world. 

All week. I’ve been collecting hugs from people from all over the world.  I’m thankful for you. Me too. Ditto. 

Need to share her smiles in helping ways and Oh, and positivity.  And 

if you feel like you’re still struggling,  don’t judge.  Be with yourself. Allow yourself to be where you are. 

Em is with everyone. We just need to realize it. Yes.  And em is right here, right now  and he is the reason why I have a voice. ’cause  I didn’t have a voice this morning.  Hmm. 

Having you here reflect what I’m feeling  is one of the most healing things for me right now, 

and being able to show up for you  is such a pleasure  and,  and blessing 

bending hugs back. 

Thank you.  I wouldn’t be, I wouldn’t be  like  if I didn’t tell you that  I am available to help you.  This is my job.  This is what I do.  I work only with women. I work only with women who are married.  So if you are married and you are a woman,  I invite you to work with me.  I have a  private coaching program called Balance for God’s Sake, where we do exactly that. 

We find balance, we work through emotions. We find what is holding you back. We find how to get through it.  We’ve seen miracles  with  things you’ve been trying to do forever, and it just never works.  It’s amazing. And so  just like Teah.  Wasn’t afraid to tell people what she did because she knew she can help them. 

I’m stepping up and I’m telling you that I am here for you and I am here for  this nation.  It’s a private program. It is one-on-one. You get me, you get full access to me. You get WhatsApp support,  you get sessions. There are trainings, an entire curriculum and a library of meditations,  and  the results  that you create  are incredible. 

Mara says, sign up. It’s amazing. Yes. Mara’s one of my clients. I love you. 

It feels so good to have like old clients tell people like, yes, yes, go do it.  Because it’s, it’s hard for me to give you specific stories because I work with marriage, I work with women, we work through things that are very personal. I have very private  and very safe.  And also the external results are pretty amazing.

And those are things that I can share. Things like making more money and you know, helping your husband make more money and  improve the atmosphere in the home. And the kids speak differently now, and my daughter learned skills from me because I was able to model them. 

The ability to be more aware of your  emotions, of your inner world, of what’s holding you back. The ability.  To open up  the ability to receive more,  to let yourself have the things you want.  Those are all things that are pretty incredible and are direct results of the work we do. 

And if I wasn’t so, uh, brain fog, I would even give you the link so you can sign up. One second. Let’s find it. 

I found it.  That didn’t take that long. Here we go.  Um, bu boom, everyone in meeting.  Oh, look at that. Somebody already put it in the chat.  Wow. You’re awesome. 

I can, um, I have.  Sarah, uh, you could be in touch with me if you are unsure. If this is for you and you’re not ready to sign up, don’t worry. You can get a discovery call. Um, I see that Aviva, my assistant, is here, so she’s gonna drop  in the links below. Um, working with me is a three month process. It costs $2,500.

You get six sessions with me and WhatsApp support, and I am a hundred percent with you. Um, right now because of this tragedy, I am making a cool new thing that I received a download about.  This is my language of saying God told me, uh, to allow you to defer so you can buy now and defer as long as you want in the next year.

If you want to start in three months, in six months, in five months, and you know, in a year you can start paying now, and by the time your payment plan  is ready, you can. See, hey, I’m really, I really need this now, or I’m going on vacation. I really would like it after vacation. Usually I say now is the best time, but, um, right now might not be the best time for you.

And so you can buy right now and have access to the program.  And then start working with me one-on-one in the WhatsApp support and the personal, uh, zoom sessions when you’re ready. Okay. So you can set up a payment plan or pay for it now and then let me know when you’re ready.  I’m more than happy to do that for you.

We also changed the settings so that you have longer time for the sessions and the trainings and the, the meditations and the curriculum because we feel like this is the time to. Open that up for those who want extra.  Um, and so, um, I don’t know what’s going on here with the links, but Mati put the link for the charity.

Thank you.  Mati is also a kind of mine, just saying hi.  Um, all you guys are so cool. It feels so nice to have you here and supporting me.  She’s an amazing person. It’s worth a try. Thank you.  May God give you strength to be able to be now and always. Thank you. Thank  you. 

I,  if I can’t help you,  I will refer you to someone else.  Um, that, that is like, somebody asked about singles going into dating or divorced, not married.  Usually I don’t work with women who are in those stages of life, and I tell you who I think is good.  Um, but if you really, really want to work with me, I might  be a little nicer now. 

I might be less, less strict. Now that we’re in this new phase of life, which we’re all getting used to 

for the last four minutes,  I want you to open up your hands. I want you to receive like really open up. Open up like a funnel. I want you to become aware of all the good in the world, all the good that God is  giving us. It’s hard to see. It feels dark, it feels bitter. It feels uncomfortable. It is not what we want it to be. 

I never imagined I’d have to wake my parents up at one o’clock in the morning.  Tell them news,  but it was my pleasure and my privilege  to merit to do that because it was my mitzvah.  And so I want you to just open up, open up, open up, and allow God to reveal the good.  Bring it on, reign it.  Let it  funnel into you, into your heart. 

There’s so much light, there’s so much good. There’s so much to be grateful for. There’s so much, so much  that your heart wants to receive,  and I want this to be an invitation to open up and not close and protect. Okay? So our immediate reaction is to shut down  and that’s not going to get us anywhere. So I want you to work  to open. 

Release and allow,  uh,  anybody who wants to unmute themselves and give us feedback about how you feel, about what you feel about  who you are, about anything you feel like saying. Right now, you can feel free to unmute yourself or write in the chat. 

I’m very shy.  I’m proud of you for noticing that,  and if you wanna change it, you can. When you’re ready.  Proud of you for doing this. Yay. Thank you. Me too. 

I’m proud of me for getting through this. It was hard, but we did it.  I feel so much better now. Really  had a hard morning. People ask me how am I doing? You know, it’s ups and downs and sometimes I don’t get to the up until the evening,  but here we are. 

You’re number one. Aw, thank you. 

You guys are so sweet. 

I really look forward to working with you.  Where’s the link to the discovery call?  It’s the one that’s called connected for real.com/three months private coaching package. But really if you go to connected for real.com,  you can just go work with me and there’s a link to Schedule Discovery call. The discovery call is free. 

And is a 60 minute call, by the way, just that is, it’s like, and everybody’s like, oh, I don’t wanna take your time. Like, this is my pleasure. It’s the way I serve the world for free. Take advantage. Seriously. You will have a breakthrough just from that call. You don’t have to buy anything. Uh, it is a way for us to unlock what is actually holding you back, what is actually keeping you stuck. 

And then  I create a roadmap for you of exactly what needs to be done in order to get  there.  And then I invite you to work with me and we decide together if it’s a good idea, if it’s now is the right time. Uh, you can ask me any questions that come up or if you have any concerns, we can work through them. 

So I highly recommend getting on a discovery call if you’re on the fence, I.  You can do anything as long as you put your mind to it. I love that you need to trust yourself. Such beautiful takeaways from today. Thank you so much for pushing past your own pain to help us process hours. You’re the best.  I didn’t push past,  I allowed myself to get past.

There’s something very  soft  and very smooth about it. I don’t believe in hard work.  I want it to be easy. And the way to be easy is to let God in, 

and that’s something that 

oof  something I’m really, really, uh, loud about. Stop. Stop thinking. It takes hard work.  It doesn’t. I. 

Let it be easy.  Let yourself get the help you need. 

Someone asked my brother, what advice would ELA give?  Says, get on with your life. Make sure you’re alive, you’re living.  Don’t get stuck in the darkness. 

Um, 

don’t get stuck in the suffering.  Suffering is optional  and there is another way. 

Get the help you need. That is one thing that she really worked so hard. She wanted to build, let’s say, last center 

to treat every person no matter what,  no matter how much money they have.  Because she says getting help is the most important thing that you can do.  And anybody who tries to save money  on this and say, oh, I’ll just DIY, I’ll just figure it out. I’ll listen to a bunch of podcasts  and I’ll just like, you know, hop from coach to coach and get all the freebies and try to figure, you know, figure it out.

From there  is, is taking the long road.  She.  Saw the results, like I see the results because we’re in the same industry, we’re in the same field.  As soon as you commit to yourself and to your light and to your  life  to really live it, 

the breakthrough is almost immediate.  It happens before you get on the first call. It happens when you give your credit card. It happens when you commit to yourself and to God.  And people say,  but who am I to do this?  And when I said that, when I was doing a meditation with, with my mentor  and I wanted to start a podcast, and I said, who am I to do this? 

The guidance I got, the answer I got was, who are you not to?  If God put you here  to do this work, who are you to say, I can’t?  Who are you to say, ah, somebody else will do it. Somebody does it so much better than I do.  English is not my first language.  I’m not able to speak so eloquently, uh, elo. See, even that word came out wrong eloquently. 

I, I, who am I? What is this? Blah, blah, blah.  And God is like, Uhuh,  that’s not the point. It’s not about you. It’s  about me.  And so I really, I, 

I want to pass on the message that.  She was so loud about  to just  jump in, to get past the fear.  There is this thing that’s stopping you and you know you want it and you know you should, and you know you could. And you know that you’re being called to just like get through.  And then it’s like,  yeah, but it’s not the right time.

I won’t have the money. Blah, blah, blah. 

My sister just told me today about an advertisement.  She says, oh, what a good advertisement. I just saw this lady is walking out with her like yoga mat and saying, come, are you coming with us? We’re going to Pilates. And this girl’s like, no, I hate when I sweat. I hate the smell. I can’t, I can’t like be out and do Pilates with a group or whatever.

She like, you know, and then I. She says, didn’t you hear of this? You know, whatever. I don’t know if it was a laundry detergent or a deodorant or something, right? She’s like, didn’t you hear of this? This is the solution for that. She’s like, oh, okay, so I’ll come up with a different excuse  and, and my sister thought such a brilliant, brilliant advertisement because really they’re all excuses.

You think God can’t get you the money you need in order to work.  You think that God can’t help you find the time? And by the way, people tell me, I don’t have time. My plate is full. Guess what?  If your plate is full, what do you do?  People will say, take something off your plate now. Get a bigger plate.  You are the vessel. 

All you need to do is expand your capacity. I.  That’s what we do. That is, people ask me, what do you do? You know, there’s some fancy ways of saying, I, you know, I help you stop fighting with your husband about your business. ’cause that’s a real result. And people want that. But really, really, I help you enlarge and expand your capacity  so that you can receive the abundance, so that you can hold it, so that you can overflow it. 

And if you’re being called right now  to jump in and do it, your brain is gonna come up with all the reasons why it’s too soon. It’s scary, it’s unsafe, it’s, I don’t know,  you tell me.  So if you have those, please get on a discovery call. At least  take action  if you’re not gonna sign up with an actual credit card and, and, and join  the next best thing. 

Is to get on a discovery call. Put it in your calendar right now because if you get on my calendar right now, that means by next week we’re going to be talking and we’re going to be working through what is stopping you from going, for going, becoming the version of yourself that God is calling you to become. 

And you know, we’re sitting at the Shiva and my mother and I are just shocked because as much as we knew Teah, we only knew her for 11 years. But the people who were treated by her, the people who worked alongside her, the people who learned from her,  knew her so much better because they saw the things that she was doing and and teaching from the inside. 

And you just like stand there in awe of what she became in such a short time  through the experiences that she lived through. 

And it’s just proof that every single one of us can do that.  And every excuse is just to keep us small. And every reason we are not moving forward is because we’re afraid of what others will say of what  that means, right? The fear of success is one of the biggest things that was holding me back when I was starting out.

Forget fear or failure. You know, people are gonna laugh at me, people are gonna whatever. It’s like if I actually make it, what are people gonna say?  And so like, until this point, I was more, more famous than her. Like I had a podcast and I had, you know, my YouTube channel and whatever, and now she like  surpassed and now I have what to you know?

Now I have high hopes. I hope not to have it to do it this way, but  there’s a light that spreads  and all the reasons in the world. You say, oh, but I can’t  today. I invite you to find a way 

to take action. 

So right now, I want in the chat  to hear an action that you are taking

as a takeaway from today.

You know, what happened at the Shiva?  Somebody walked in and suddenly my mother jumped Jackie.  Jackie was six when my mother was four,  and they both made Alata the same center and went to Lapont together,  and they played when they were four and six  and she recognized him. 

It is so beautiful. All the people from all of the world  who really, really love you and you don’t realize because you’re stuck in your own little bubble. 

Somebody wrote here about a song 

that God loves you  and that all is good.  My, my friend sent me a song called.  I have a father who is the king.  So  just be grateful. Be grateful for that. In the prayer  first thing, first thing we’re grateful for is that we have a God.  We’re not alone. It’s beautiful. I, I assumed it was good till gold. I’m so happy. 

Ah,  I love you.  Um, 

takeaways. Get my resume done, do my journaling, and stop worrying about making it all work. Yes.  Ah,  I feel hopeless. Me too. 

This morning I felt it a lot  and you know, there’s a committee, I don’t know go has or something I posted about them on my status. I.  They sent us these art kits for the kids to do during Shiva,  and they’re so sweet. They sent a one for his family and one for mine  because even though we’re not sitting Shiva,  we’re standing Shiva. 

And so there was three kids. One my daughter took right away and was like, I’m doing this one, and she’s almost 12, so she knows what she wants. The second one, my 6-year-old took and did an entire self therapy session on herself. She made a little gun with bullets and gave them eyes and cute little like, you know, sparkles and a bunch of like cell phones and I don’t know everything.

It was just so. Amazing. And little like monsters, like, you know, cute ones. And, and she gave them names and, oh, she was so cute. And I saw her doing it. And I was like, me too. I want that.  So this morning I grabbed the third one that I was saving for my three-year-old. I was like, guess who?  I need it more than him.

And I sat there and I made I, I’ll send you a picture of it. If you’re in my email list, then you’ll get a picture of what I made today. But I was feeling really hopeless. And  the answer to that  is to take action. Don’t let yourself  pause  in that hopelessness.  Try to move  even just one finger at a time.

One foot at a time. Try to do something.  Take action.  So.  When I’m not in the mood of getting outta bed, I’ll just start moving my finger. ’cause at least something is moving. And then I’ll just like move my hand and eventually I’m like, okay, fine. I’m ready to move. Because the stuckness keeps you stucker  And movement starts movement. 

So when you’re feeling hopeless,  just can I drink a cup of water? Can I get up and walk around? Can I go out of the house? Because sometimes the location keeps you weighed down. It was really, really powerful for me to do this outside. I went outside and I did the art thing 

that was vulnerable. It felt very nice to say  thank you for getting me there,  whoever iPhone is. I appreciate you.  

Go in an organization to get more details on what I can do. Yes. Beautiful.  What else? Takeaways. 

You’re not leaving here without telling me what you’re doing.  Just kidding.  I tell people if I, if I tell you to breathe, I want you to breathe now, not for B, not for homework, because you’re not gonna do it. 

Get a bigger plate.  I’m looking forward to working with you. Yes, I am.  You’re a million percent right? Sometimes. It’s so hard to know what the next steps are. Thank you for all the, and the motivation. You’re the best. You’re welcome.  And I still need to hear your steps because really, really. There’s this clarity that’s calling you.

It’s just, it’s in, it’s right here at the tip of your tongue. If you don’t write it, if you don’t do something with it, it’s going to be very hard to tap into again later, because later is already going to be a different moment.  You’re among women who appreciate, uh, who appreciate you and love you. Thank you. 

I am. There’s also some men here who love me and appreciate me, which is very nice.  Um, don’t be afraid to ask for help and acknowledge what is difficult for me. Yes, good takeaway.  I don’t know what to address first. Everything feels urgent. Get on a discovery call. I’m gonna, I’m gonna help you. This is my thing.

I love it. Get on a discovery call even if you don’t wanna buy anything. I’m telling you, this is the way I could serve the world. I want my entire. Week next week to be booked up with discovery calls because this week, tomorrow I’m driving up to the er, I am swimming across the ER with my daughter and 500 other, uh, other women.

And we’re going to do it and it’s gonna be amazing, and I’m going to do it for her memory, because you’re supposed to continue living and it’s hard, but we’re doing it.  Enjoy the swim. Enjoy is the goal. Swim is what we’re going to be doing. Either way,  I hope it will work out. Um,  get the biggest plate so you have enough space for everything, you know.

But when you’re growing something,  you can’t go from here to biggest in one jump. You need to  naturally grow,  okay? It, it takes a process and you need to allow yourself to grow. 1% more, 5% more, just a little more, and you’re going to see that you grew bigger. Only when you look back to what it was like,  women work with me for three months and sometimes don’t realize what they have become until I make them look back at the intake form, at the things they filled out.

And they say, I said that  I was, that. I worried about that.  And so I don’t want you to put this weight on you of like, I’m gonna get the biggest plate and I’m going to become the biggest thing. No, you’re going to take up space wherever you are right now, you’re going to start using your hands to spread them  where you are, what you can reach, and you’re going to start taking action with the things that are right in front of you. 

And if you want specifics, I.  We’re gonna talk at the discovery call um, amazing Love Swim4Sadna. Yes, I do too. I was there two years ago and then last year I had a baby, so I couldn’t swim. And this year I am swimming with my 14-year-old, which is very exciting, very, uh, bonding experience.

So I’m very grateful for that.  Hmm. Have faith in yourself. That’s a great takeaway. We have faith in you, God have, has faith in you.  Then let’s go  believe in it too. 

Hmm. 

When we say ani in the morning, 

your faith in me is great.  So even if you don’t feel like it,  at least he knows that you can do it.  He gave you this day, so might as well try.  Keep doing what you’re doing.  Ditto.  Thank you.  Hmm. Okay. So fun to see all these beautiful women.

Thank you so much for being here with me.  I will reach out if I need help. I will send you emails about updates and  I look forward to all of the discovery calls that are happening next week.  I love you very much.  You are stronger than you think, and smarter than you know. I love it. 

Good news to everyone. 

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