184. Is your husband going to get jealous of your success?

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Welcome to the Connected For Real podcast. I’m Rebbetzin Bat-Chen Grossman, a marriage coach for women in business. And my mission is to bring God’s presence into your life, into your marriage and into your business. Let’s get started. 

 Is your husband going to get jealous of your success? Well, that is exactly what my client will call her. Nancy came into the discovery call telling me she was describing her life. Basically. They live in Israel, but they both make a normal, decent living, you know, compared to this region, and it’s because her husband has a job.

That is work from home through the United States, and she has her business and that gives them the ability to live comfortably here.  That’s very nice. Them and their five kids are having a great life. But the problem is that they both work from home. That’s for a different video, and she sees how miserable he is.

He is not fulfilled. He does not feel like he is in his purpose. He’s doing this dead end job because it makes him money and he’s feeling like it’s killing him. Slowly but surely, and she’s watching this going, I can’t rub it in his face. Right. I can’t make more money and then make him feel like, ugh, like now I’m even worse off like ego wise, right?

So this is the reason why she wasn’t working on her business. She was only working in her business. It is also the reason why she wasn’t trying to get more clients intentionally, and she was just sort of flowing with this word of mouth and people just found me and it’s okay ’cause I have enough clients anyway, and.

Things just weren’t aligned for her. She was feeling overwhelmed. She was feeling guilty about the kids and the timing and, and everything that was going on behind the scenes. There was a lot of noise when she came in and we took it all apart during our discovery call. I love to listen to all the puzzle pieces and then put them all together so she’s.

Spoke a lot and spilled it all, and really told me every little part of why she’s feeling the way she’s feeling.  And then I created a plan for her that showed her what we were going to be doing and how it’s going to affect all the different parts of her life.  She agreed to start working together and.

The week after we were ready on our first session. So she’s an energy healer, so she already came in with a lot of knowledge and a lot of self-awareness, which is really fun for me because a lot of the work is just tweaking and making it adjusted to exactly what she needs because she already knows a lot of the things and she’s already  done a lot of work.

And basically our first session.  Was a guided meditation that I created on the spot specifically for her and her needs based on everything she’s told me and things started falling into place. And then she suddenly had this understanding that there was a lot of self doubt, there was a lot of guilt. And the overwhelm was coming from those two places, right?

The crazy, crazy amount of self-doubt of who am I to raise my prices? How could I be serving clients in this way when I feel like they need more support and I just don’t know how to offer it to them. A lot of the thoughts that were going on behind the scenes and all the details I’m giving you guys like it is so universal that.

Even though she’s feeling it, there’s a lot more people feeling the same things, but it’s really, really an amazing way of how our brain works. Okay, so what I showed her in that guided meditation and what she was able to find physically in her body and then heal was that the self-doubt and the guilt were using  the.

Fear of her husband feeling jealous or him feeling bad about himself or how you know she was going to hurt his ego and whatever. All that story, it was really masking those things. So once we were able to start just sort of like melt that away,  everything started to flow and she slowly grew her confidence to.

Breakthrough, her prices, her method, her ability to communicate what she actually does. It was so cool to watch throughout the three months of working with her, how powerful. That first guided meditation was, but also how amazing it was when she started implementing some of the strategy that we put into place.

Anyway, bottom line, she went from three or $4,000 a month to seven or $8,000 a month consistently, which was really, really cool, and she was able to communicate what she does better and sell. An entire process as opposed to just the sessions themselves. Now, I wanna tell you what happened to the husband, because as you know, I do not work with men.

I only work with women, and this is the reason why. Because as soon as you.  Release the story of him being jealous, him, you know, feeling bad, him being hurt. Then you take responsibility for your self-doubt, for your confidence, for the overwhelm, for all the stuff that you were feeling about your parenting, the guilt and the shame and all that stuff, and you just let it go and you work through it.

And we do the work. What happens is that he is now free to go and do the thing that he.  Is here to do. I see this all the time and some people will say, oh, there was something energetically holding him back or whatever. I really believe that it’s just. You becoming your full self and that being contagious when you walk around in the world, owning yourself, your stuff, your purpose, you’re excited, you are shining.

You just are. You are, you are. There isn’t hiding. There isn’t like. You know, sort of shrinking there isn’t moving away or moving aside, you know, like how I just did that with my body. Exactly. That there isn’t that anymore. And the people around you, your husband, your children, your parents, your in-laws, whatever, people start to pick up on that and they want that too.

And they start to see the little nuances of how you are. Operating in the world, they see that you’re speaking differently. They see that you’re handling things differently, that you’re able to regulate yourself differently, and they pick up on that and that causes them to be able to sort of do it too, because it’s just what you do when you start mirroring other people or you know, modeling. 

Anyway, 

on the last session, I.  She told me, oh, by the way, my husband started working on this passion project on the side because he felt like he’s excited about it and it’s worth his time and effort to give time to that as well. I was like, duh.  It always happens. It does not surprise me. I expect it. I know it’s gonna happen, and every time it makes me happy again because it catches me by surprise, even though I know it’s coming.

It is so awesome when this type of thing happens because. She started making more money, she’s feeling more confident. She is not doubting herself anymore, and he is having fun and coming alive and doing something that he’s been dreaming about doing without being helped.  And so I want you to think about what it is that you can take responsibility over what it is that you can own more, and what you can let go of.

So that the other people in your life can take responsibility for their stuff. Also, I invite you to come and talk to me. I love conversation. I love people, and I think that just getting my eyes on your story or letting me in on something that’s not flowing as well. I can help you just with a couple of minutes, so I’m opening that up for you.

One, because that is part of my value system. I decided very early on in my business that everybody, anybody, even if they have or don’t have money, will get a free call. Because why not? You deserve it. I am here to serve the world and you are here to receive it. And then if we do decide to continue and move forward, I.

I’m here to support you for the next three months. I’m here to help you. Okay, so this is a completely free call. Go check it out. The link is below and I look forward to hearing how I can help you. Make sure that your husband is not jealous of you and your business. Okay? Go back to what you were doing and I will see you next time. 

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