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 Welcome to the Connected For Real training, how to balance your marriage and your business, for God’s sake. I’m so excited. I cannot tell you how excited I am. I planned this out. I ran this a couple of times. It keeps getting better and better, but now I had a breakthrough. So I’m extra excited because I’m doing things differently.

I’m doing it my way. I am. Throwing all the rules out the window. So you may find me imperfectly Doing this but having a lot of fun. So let’s get into it. For all of you who don’t know me I will get into my story, but my name is Reviton Batran Grossman. I am a marriage coach for women in business How I got there is I was a graphic designer for 15 years. I studied in Pratt Institute in New York And worked on 5th Avenue, made Aliyah, worked for Ben Gassner in Jerusalem, who’s the top graphic designer in the entire city and probably country.

Then I opened up my own thing and started getting my own clients and grew my business. And as I’m growing my business, I am becoming more and more successful. And my husband, who is a rabbi, is sort of, Not getting anywhere he wanted to get to or, you know, sort of doing the same thing and not seeing the growth and There’s a little bit of distance that’s starting to happen just because I’m going out doing my things and he’s sort of like, you know, like bitter so it Wasn’t very pleasant in the house And I tried going to all these marriage things and all the advice and all the whatevers And because this was my top priority and you know, we’re both very committed to our marriage I was trying to figure out why all of the advice isn’t working until one day I finally stumbled on the answer and the answer is that all the old fashioned advice is designed for the old fashioned marriage where the woman was sort of following her husband and the husband was the one who was on top and all of the advice is sort of You know, bridging the gap in order to get the women empowered and able to hold her own space and sort of even, and that, that moment when they’re equal, then it’s like, okay, great.

Now you got it, but what do you do when the wife’s on top and she’s more successful and she knows what she’s doing and she does all this inner work and he’s sort of like in a funk or he’s just doing his thing. Right. That. Is a new thing that’s happening and is, I mean, new, you know, it didn’t happen yesterday, but we are that generation of empowered women who went out and did our thing and are learning to shine and are growing and are taking risks and leaping in and, you know, leaning in and all those things.

Our husbands are not getting the same tools or the same energy and funding and all that stuff that’s being given to women and that created this new gap that is very different than what people are used to and the old fashioned stuff isn’t really working to help. All it does is empowers the woman more, it gives her more independence, and then the gap Opens up even further there.

It creates more of a distance and you almost look down at your husband for Not working on himself and not being into self development or not pushing himself to be something better or bigger or more It’s not pleasant so one day I was in a conference and At that conference it was for women in business.

It was Mostly religious women Who were all there to learn how to grow their business and you know do all the things Except at the table itself. We started this conversation about oh, what do you want to do? How do you want to grow whatever we had this nice informal conversation And everybody said pretty much the same thing in different language It’s like I just want to grow a little because I don’t want to get to that place where my business is Overpowers my family overpowers my life.

I don’t want to get you know To be those people who get to the million or get to the hundred thousand or they break some sort of like ceiling And then their whole world collapses on them, right? There’s a big trend that I see in the podcast world and the business world I made it to my goal and then soon after I got divorced like What happened?

What’s going on? And that’s very scary. It was very scary to me personally, because obviously I didn’t want to end up like that. My marriage, my family mattered more. And all these women around the table were saying the same thing. It’s like, I’ll just grow my business a little bit enough that I can go on vacation enough that I can buy a car enough that I can, you know, save a little, like just enough.

I just need a little bit more. And what is that with us? You don’t have a table full of men saying that it’s because that, you know, it’s just normal that a man wants to get to the top and he’s going to make it and he’s confident and he’s going, why are we holding ourselves back? And I came home from that conference, feeling very frustrated, very upset, very annoyed, very loaded, and I ended up exploding at my husband and taking it all out on him while he’s brushing his teeth, lucky for me, he did not respond and just let me.

Vent and get it all out of my system because I felt stuck. I felt like he was the reason I was being held back. I was holding myself back because of him. He was going to be jealous. He was going to be resentful. He was going to have to, be more of a team player and he wasn’t. As involved or, you know, as partnery in certain things.

So. I just didn’t have who to lean on and I was frustrated at that. I didn’t have that same language that we can, you know, talk just like I talk to my business friends. Why can’t I talk to you? Why do you, you know, get all emotional or, or defensive when I say things? Like same conversation, but goes totally different way.

And I took this all out on him. And you know, I even remember when I was working in Tel Aviv, I would go to the meeting. I was the important one. I was the person people were asking advice from and what should we do? And they’re paying me money to know what to do with their business, right? How many You know, whatever sets to get , from China and how many colors and which colors should we buy and, you know, how should we package it?

And I was a package of designer. That was my specialty. And, and then I’m like, you know, I come home and I actually felt like I had to lower the volume on myself and sort of dim the light. Before I walk in the house so that I don’t step on his toes That’s how I used to feel and it felt really bad because I didn’t like that I didn’t like that in the outside world.

I got to be a certain way and then in my house. I sort of had to like You know like deflate change persona. It was just too much of a shake for my system and Thank god to my husband’s amazing Wisdom. And thank God for the fact that he’s smarter than just like, you know, exploding back.

He listened and listened and then eventually just said like, what are you talking about? I’m not jealous. And I don’t know where you got that out of, but. I’m very happy for you to make more money than me. I’m very happy for you to be successful Like just tell me what you want and i’ll do it, right? It’s like he basically said if you make more money than I get more money.

What do I care? You know, and I thought what? That’s not what it sounds like that’s not how it feels, you know here You are walking around being all bitter and resentful and there’s like, you know I was once in a marriage class and You I described it like this and I was laughing as I was describing it, but it was so real.

It’s like here I am. I built my empire. It’s this beautiful gorgeous colorful full of light and air, you know Castle and i’m the queen and my husband comes in and throws black everywhere. That’s how it felt the that energy of like In contrast with all of the light and the brightness and the life that I wanted to live.

And that contrast was really, really difficult for me. And when he says, I don’t know what you’re talking about. I’m really here with you. I’m really here for you. Just tell me what you need. I was like, that went a totally different way than what I thought. You know, here I am taking it out on you. and you turned it around.

So we had a really, you know, Real conversation about what I needed for me to succeed and why I’m actually holding myself back and what , I’m afraid of and, you know, what he can do to help me and what I need to do and what I need from just Life in general, like, you know, what supports that’s not him necessarily do I need and so on.

Anyway, we had a really good conversation. It led to a couple more conversations and a bunch of tweaks and different, you know, changes that took on life through that experience. And I ended up breaking through, I ended up getting more clients, getting better clients, getting more money, completely breaking through.

And my friends who were all around that table in the original part of the story saw this and said you have to show us how like, how did you do this? How did you create that balance in your marriage that your business could grow without breaking your marriage, right? That was everybody’s concern is how do I get this marriage to last through a success?

And I didn’t know what I did. I just did. I couldn’t tell you. So, I really sat down and I reverse engineered. I did a lot of introspection. I wrote a lot in my journal. I tried to pull together What steps had to happen for me to get here to the other side to the you know right now? Thank god. I have eight kids.

My husband is still a rabbi. He is still figure himself out But now it’s not so much of a funk now. It’s like a really Ideal life for him. He’s happy where he is and he’s always striving for more. And it feels really nice that we can have open conversations about how to help him without making him feel like I’m trying to change him.

And. He helps me by making meals and doing the shopping and all sorts of things. So a lot has changed and I got to Grow up and be my best self while he is his best self and we are running this beautiful house and And family and it feels really good So today what i’m going to do is i’m going to teach you this four steps to creating that breakthrough after I reverse engineered it and came up with the The name the calm method and started teaching it to women in business Turns out it is a method that you can use anywhere any time before a situation to plan after a situation to really fix whatever you messed up or whatever it is.

You can use it in the moment of a tantrum You can use it big picture. You can use it very little picture, right? So It’s very versatile. It’s very intuitive. It’s very powerful and very simple, but also you need to be intentional. Okay. So with that being said, you should, if you would like, get intentional now, because it’s really, really.

Very different to be listening to this as a oh, by the way I’m cooking and cleaning and also listening versus sitting down and writing notes or sitting down and really focusing Okay, so i’m just telling that to you up front. What else? Questions! Questions at the end. I’m going to answer any questions you have.

I am here until the last question, so don’t worry. I am excited about answering questions. I’m very open about everything, so Or about most things. So please send the questions my way. And, I’m being 100 percent open with you. At the end of my presentation, I will be inviting you to work with me. I have a three month program that is private coaching.

It’s just me and you. There is no group thing. You know, for privacy reasons, I feel like marriage is a very personal thing. endeavor and you don’t want to share it with a group. And when we’re working on inner stuff and expansion and things that really are very vulnerable and very personal and unique to you, this is the place to do private coaching.

So I had groups, I had masterminds, I loved it and they loved it too. But I really found that right now, In this season that we’re in people need to be able to come and Open up in a way that can only be done privately. Okay, so I have a three month private coaching program It’s called balance for god’s sake and i’m going to tell you all about it at the end So stay tuned.

There’s also some great bonuses for people who are here And listen to the end. Okay, so Let’s start. So Why am I doing this training?

This is a new part I never tell anybody ever like I feel really called to tell you why i’m doing this In the last couple of months I found out about too many divorces and separations of people who I

Know for many many years Who I’ve seen while growing up and I’m shocked, you know, it’s like, it shakes up your whole system. How do two people who are good people who are loving and smart and sophisticated and talented and creative and resilient and went through so much together end up like that. And it really, it, I’m a very sensitive person.

It touches me in a very sensitive place a, because I know. That it’s just their journey and it’s not my problem and I can’t fix anything and you know, everybody has their, life that they need to live, but it also makes me think, how do we prevent this? Right? And it’s not that there’s like real problems.

You know, like I tell people if you’re one foot at the door and you’re getting divorced and you’re Having all these really big explosive issues and there’s you know, I don’t know abuse and things that are really gigantic go to someone whose specialty is that I could probably deal with it, but that’s not my niche.

My niche is the You know rewind a little where you are now before it gets worse When it’s actually good, when things are fine. Somebody told me, I love my husband, but I don’t like him right now. It’s that, right? It’s this like, what’s actually happening that starts the rubbing the wrong way that creates that bottling up that creates the explosion that creates the, you know, the, the, that where’s that beginning thing.

And I found that the beginning thing is with this resentment. The acceptance of okay, this is what it is. I just have to deal with it. I have little kids or I’m, you know, stuck in this, so I’ll make the best out of it. And so you pray for enough energy to deal with it or the strength to have the patience to, you know, help me hold my tongue to be respectful, right? It’s like the energy of

that, Surrender type thing like okay. This is what it is I guess I married a lemon and I have to make the best out of it So I will and then things happen and it rubs you the wrong way and then you start creating this distance and then there’s less Intimacy and there’s less connection and there’s less It’s a vulnerability and you start putting up protective walls because you don’t want to get hurt.

And all these things are just the steps that lead to all these bigger, gigantic er things, right? And they happen behind closed doors because we don’t actually see when a person is like You know, it sort of just happens in her head or it happens in her own house and things could be fine. And honestly, because they’re both good people, they also sort of make it work and they make it look fine and, and everything sort of just flows until it doesn’t, and then something comes and sort of breaks the whole thing.

So I don’t really deal with the thing that broke the camel’s back. I want to. Go move back all the way to the beginning where There was a chance for us to create balance to change the trajectory of where this is going And we didn’t do that because we didn’t know how okay So that was the introduction of why i’m doing this and i’m going to tell you now why I think you’re here.

Okay, because this is a Amazing training and i’m sure that you’re here to get a lot out of it. And You You know that you’re in the right place because you’re married. Okay. I only work with married women and you’re either in business or in something that makes you successful or ambitious or, you know, Doing the thing you want to open a business and you don’t know how you’re trying to figure it out You’re trying to find yourself or you already have an established business and you already have a team or you’re succeeding. All that is open right when I say business.

I am Very open but also very specific Because I think you know who i’m talking to when I say you’re not just anything, right? You happen to be really awesome. And you have a lot of things that matter to you when people say focus You’re like focused on what everything matters, right? Like like when they tell someone who’s creative like you need to focus they’re like, but I love all my projects Right.

So that’s how it is. It’s i’m not just a You Fill in the blank. I am a mother and a wife and you know, and I have passions and I am Doing this thing for the community for the people for you know for god for I have a lot right? So, you know who you are you’re in the right place. And the last thing is you believe in god I speak about god.

I bring him into everything I do I do want to say that you do not have to be a certain religion or a certain level of observance to You gain from this training or to work with me in general, I believe that in the time and place that we are in history, the common denominator is God and bringing God’s light into the world.

We are all here to do that. Okay? So I don’t care if you were a religious and you went off or if you are getting more religious or if you’re more religious than me or less religious, I don’t care. That is all nonsense. I grew up with a grandfather who always said all that matters is that you know There’s a god and he’s right here right now, right?

He sees everything you do that is what matters and With that said we’re going to start. Okay so As I said, you are awesome and the women who i’ve been working with You tend to fall into three types of personas.

Like, I was able to categorize my people into three categories. The first one is the status quo stayer, okay? We’re calling her that because she wishes she could grow her business. But is scared that it will come at the expense of her family, her marriage, her children. So she holds herself back. It’s like, everything’s working just fine.

Don’t move anything. Don’t add, don’t subtract, don’t go out and do anything new. Like, just keep it calm. And it’s great, but it also isn’t great. Okay, like, I don’t know if you know, but holding it in is really difficult. I once had one of my births where the ambulance driver said, hold it in.

We’re almost there. And I looked at him like, are you kidding? It hurts more to hold it in than to go with the flow and when you’re called to serve god in a different way when you’re called to go and shine and light up and give Telling you to hold it in is really really painful and ends up Costing your family because you end up being resentful.

Okay, so we’re going to talk about that more but the status quo stayer is One very big group of people who don’t go after their dreams because they think that it will

create problems in their marriage or that they’ll have to pay a price, okay? The second type is the exhausted entrepreneur. It’s, you know, if you’ve said, why is everything on my shoulders? I do everything around here, right? I want to enjoy my family, but I’m always exhausted. It makes me feel resentful.

Things like that is, it’s, it’s, ugh. You know, it’s heavy. It’s hard work. It’s constantly running after the next thing. It’s exhausting. Okay it’s like I stay up all night with the baby and then I have to do the work and then I have and i’m running after Everything and it’s almost like you’re working for your business and it’s not the other way around.

It is exhausting and Because you feel like you’re in this alone. You’re doing a lot more than You need to okay, so we’re going to talk about that. But that really is that second type of Women who I see a lot is is this like drained? You Emotionally, exhausted physically, and like done, right? And when you’re doing that hard work thing, you’re in this loop, you can’t see past your nose, you can’t see beyond what you see right now, and it’s very difficult to get into that higher level, okay?

The third type is the guilty go getter. It’s those women who do go after their dreams and they do work and they do stay up late and, serve their clients and do the thing and they love it, they love their work, they love their business, but they feel guilty. It’s like, You know, we have a pretty good marriage, but I wish that I could spend more time with my husband Or I wish I could spend more time with my kids I feel like it could be even better if I wasn’t as busy, but i’m always working and it sort of feels like work is a convenient escape because You know, it gives me fulfillment and my work and my home doesn’t right?

That’s the type of thing we’re talking about is like you are aware of You certain workaholic tendencies, but they just happen to work for you because they’re plugging a need or allowing you to escape to somewhere that feels safe. Being home doesn’t feel like you could be at home, okay? And that’s something that’s going to rub the wrong way and eventually sort of explode as well.

Okay, so we have the status quo stayer, the exhausted entrepreneur, and the guilty go getter. Okay, you let me know who you are. I find that it’s really fascinating to see how everybody sees themselves.

Okay, so after today, I want you to walk away, hopefully with a smile, with this go to tool that will help you ditch overwhelm, know exactly what to do, make decisions with ease, create balance. Basically, instead of being pulled in all the different directions, what we’re going to try to do is Know exactly what to do in every aspect of your life and sort of integrate them together to create that balance. Okay. So what does a sense of balance mean? We’re gonna sort of take it in the three different parts Of the title, how to balance marriage and business For God’s sake. So what does balance mean or what does balance look like?

So right away, when I think of balance, I think of yoga. I love my yoga teacher. I do yoga once a week. And when she does balance poses, basically most of the work is at the core, right? Instead of flailing your limbs and trying to hold on and not to fall and, you know, feeling fumbled, it’s, you know, being very, very strong, holding your ground, feeling stable, there’s a calm and a strong feeling.

That’s what I think of when I think of balance. And when I take that and bring it into marriage and in business, basically in marriage, It looks like, you know, getting the help and the support from your husband, feeling like you’re a team. You want your husband to be proud of you, to recognize what you do, to acknowledge how much you do for him and for the family, right?

You want to feel appreciated and loved and cherished. A lot of people are finding balance when they switch to a new stage of life. I love that. That is such a good point so yes, exactly. Okay, so in marriage, you want that team player, right? The partner, the thing that feels like he gets me and we’re in this together, we’re on the same page.

We’re seeing eye to eye. In business, balance looks like confidence to show up and serve and create impact and see results and feel productive and really having that sure feeling that you’re on the right track and not wondering if I’m supposed to do something differently because something isn’t working here, right?

And the last part of balance, you know, I talk a lot about marriage and business, which by the way, marriage includes, you know, children, in laws, all the relationships and business includes all the things that you’re doing. It could be everything from your passions and the thing that lights you up and the thing that makes you money and the thing that you do, you know, in this world.

Okay. Besides those two things, the other core pillar is you and how do you balance yourself, right? Don’t forget you are the container that holds all the parts of your life. So what does this balance look like in that pillar? It looks like peace, that inner peace,

knowing exactly what to do when, a sense of calm and joy and just freedom. To be yourself and do the things the way that work for you, right? It’s like no guilt, no overwhelm, no feeling hurried, not afraid or annoyed or frustrated, just plain happy

and part of that you container is showing up in every single role in your life as your best self, right? That’s all we want. We want to be our best selves. Raise your hand if you want to be your best self. Best version of myself. That’s all I want. So what do we do when we want to be the best version of ourselves?

We either do it all Or do nothing at all. Okay I don’t know about you, but maybe you’ve had these like surge of energy that ends up like a crash when I think of being my best self The first thing that comes to mind is i’m going to Clean the whole house make cookies and be in a good mood when my husband comes home You Never works.

It never works because I’m trying to do, do, do, do, do, do it all. And then I end up exhausted and I crash and I ended up taking it out on everybody and everything. And it doesn’t work. Right? In my business, doing it all. It looks like being everywhere. Instagram, Facebook, trying ads, running challenges, going live, guesting, podcasting, trying everything.

Like you’re in this go, go, go, do, do, do energy. And it’s exhausting. It’s exhausting. Or what happens is we do nothing at all because we want to be our best selves. Then we’re like, well, my best self doesn’t work. My best self doesn’t put my children as second best or my husband, you know, he’s top priority.

So we ignore our dreams, put everything on the back burner and put it on hold for one day, right? When Something happens when I have time, right? The round to it. Remember those circles that said, I’m around to it. We basically do nothing. We do nothing at all, right? Raise your hand if you’re waiting for the right time.

She says, how do you know? Because I’ve been there we’ve all been there you either do all or nothing and that all or nothing is Not getting you anywhere close to the best version of yourself if anything it’s creating resentment Okay, it’s exhausting. It’s draining and you end up resentful. It sounds something like this.

I do so much for you and no one appreciates me around here, right? Because I do, do, do. I’m doing so much and, you know, the family doesn’t appreciate. I do so much in the business. Nobody clicks. Nobody opens my emails. Nobody schedules a call. Whatever it is, right? There’s like this resentment of, ugh. Why do I do everything if it doesn’t even pay? So It creates resentment when you try to do everything and it’s like I do so much for everyone and no one appreciates me Or the other way if you do nothing at all It sounds like, I give up so much for you and no one appreciates it, right?

Like I don’t go out to work. I don’t take calls at night. I don’t do the things and you don’t even see, you don’t see how much I give up for you. And so the resentment is still there and it’s not getting any better just because you didn’t go after your calling, right? Like it’s just as bad and that resentful is exhausting.

It’s exhausting. So what should we do instead? right instead of doing all Or nothing instead of feeling resentful and letting life sort of go by and us Be led by life What should we do instead and this is where the calm method comes in It is a gift that god gave me And I am so happy to share it with you.

Super important for me to be here doing this right now because this is What it’s all about. Okay. So what should we do instead? We pause the pause Take a deep breath. Like really i’m not gonna give it to you for homework. You have to take a deep breath now I know, because when people tell me to do things for homework, I never get to get around to it.

Right? Feel that. The breath went in, and the exhale went out, and it took so much off your shoulders as it went out. It feels amazing. The calm method aligns everything to the core. Why? Because

God put you in this world to have a relationship with him, to serve him, to light up the world, and Instead of being pulled in all the different directions, what we’re going to be doing is we’re going to pull everything towards the same direction and that direction is gone. Okay? So the call method, you can write this down if you want, it goes like this four steps. C A L M. First connect to yourself.

What do I really want? I want you to ask, what do I really want? Not, what do I need? What I want. And I’m going to get into each one in a second, but I want to give it to you all so that you can write it all down. Connect to yourself is step one. Ask for abundance is step two. Listen for the answer is step three.

And master a higher level of consciousness is step four.

These four steps are going to instantly bring you back to the core and help you stay focused. It’s going to help you make decisions. It’s going to help you know what to do. It’s going to give you the right words to say when you actually do this. So let’s get into the steps. Okay. Step one, connect to yourself.

As I said, God gives you everything you need. He gives every single creature and creation Everything they need and God created this lack so that we have a want to fill it Okay, so not what do you need when you connect to yourself feel into your body? Take a deep breath ground yourself. This takes less than a minute even half a minute a second What do I really want?

And here’s the problem. We don’t let ourselves want, it’s like not cool, right? It’s like people tell me I’m too happy. I’m like, what does too happy mean? But that’s how I grew up. Everybody was annoyed with me. Cause I’m too happy. I don’t know, but it’s also not cool to want, right? It’s like, who are you to want?

What do you think you deserve? So first of all, yes, you deserve, you deserve everything. Everything is here because God put it here for you and you don’t need to deserve anything in order to receive, right? We give our babies everything and they did nothing to deserve it. That’s how we are to God. So you don’t need to deserve anything.

You don’t need to be worthy. You just need to want. And God put that want in you. It’s not a selfish want of like, Oh, I want chocolate. No, no, no. Really get deep, deep into yourself, connect to yourself and find what you really want. Because when you do, you’re going to be able to ask for it. That’s step two.

Ask for abundance.

Right? If I connect to myself and I know what do I want in my marriage, right? I want to be able to talk about everything, including the elephant in the room. I don’t want to walk on eggshells. I want to have fun together without the undercurrent resentment thing that we feel because we’re women and we feel all these things, right?

Like the, you know, we have antennas. I want to help him without making him feel bad about himself. Right? I want peace in my house. I don’t want to fight anymore. By the way, if you say I don’t want, then find the what I want. So if I say I don’t want to fight, then find what the turnaround of that is.

I want peace. Okay? Because when you go after what you want, it’s very different than when you go away from what you don’t want. Okay? I’m going to give you an example just for fun. Two different people running the same exact speed. The same exact energy. They’re running really, really, really hard. Like they’re running the most they can, the fastest they can with all of their might.

One guy is running towards the finish line. He is running a marathon and the other guy is running away from the bear and he’s running for his life. They’re both running the same way, but they’re running with different energies. Can you see that? When I say what you want is more important than what you don’t want, trust me on this, take a minute to really go deep and say what I actually want, what I really want,

and get specific, because the more specific you are, the more you’re able to ask. Okay? In business, what it looks like is I want to make more money. So get specific. Tell me how much, right? I once had this coach who said, Oh, you want more money? Here’s a dollar. Now you have more money. You’ve succeeded. And it’s like, No, I didn’t mean that.

Okay, so tell me how much. What does that mean? Because when you get specific, then you know what you’re going after. Then you know what you need to do in order to get there. Right? I want to get more clients. Tell me what that means. Tell me what type of client. I want to light up the world. I want to do what I do best.

I want all the parts of my life to work together. I don’t want my business to, take over. All those things are really important. And when you get in touch with what you want, it really fills you up with motivation, with light, with clarity, what you’re going after. It’s an amazing first step. If I ask you, what do you really want in your life?

I want to stay grounded. Even when life happens even when there’s winds and things are thrown at me I don’t want to lose my balance every single time, right? you know those things where like you’re really up high and you’re doing great and then You have to crash just to like do the whole thing again and be up here again and then go back down No, I want to sustain this energy and I want to be able to stay balanced even when things happen Because life is going to happen.

I want to get more quality time with the people who are most important to me Right? That’s what I want in my life. I want to be my best self. I don’t want to lose my temper at my kids or at my husband just because they’re the closest people to me and the safest place for me to vent. That’s not cool, right?

So I want to be in this like calm place where I can contain the parts of my life without having to feel out of balance.

So far connect to yourself. Good. Everybody got it. So step two ask for abundance ask for abundance means That you are turning to god and asking for what you want You know one time I oh, I love this. It’s like a submarine And you have that little like periscope and it goes do do do do do do I think of when I was little we used to see these like you know cartoons and they always had that like the eye blinks at the end of the periscope It’s so funny.

Anyway, that’s the vision I have in my head. So there’s this periscope and it’s looking to the sides And it’s looking to the sides, and it’s like finding, where am I going to find the answer? That’s basically what we live our life like when we’re not connected. We’re like, I sent my resume to this place, and I spoke to this person, and I called that person, and I asked my neighbor to ask her friend, and I called up this place, and blah blah blah blah blah, right?

And we’re constantly looking for answers and for results on the sides. In reality and here in the things and we’re we’re asking for help from People who are here, but actually what you should be doing is Turn the periscope up and click that’s where the abundance comes from That is the source of everything and when you can click and connect to god and receive abundance You will finally understand how silly it was for you to be looking to the sides Okay?

And we look to the sides naturally. It’s just the way that we are in this world. It is definitely normal. And we get to be intentional. And when we’re intentional, we create the balance that we want. So, what does ask for abundance mean and why did it come as step two and not step one? All of us have been told, pray.

Right? Ask. Turn to God and usually in times of crisis or in times when you need something What is the first thing you do you turn to God? the problem is that the energy of turning to God in the moment comes with this energy of like I don’t know what you want from me. And what is this? And then why are you doing this to me and I don’t understand and I just want to know what you want, right?

It’s like very icky very grabby very, you know, not I don’t know I would want to talk to myself when I’m like that But by adding this prerequisite, connect to yourself, when you turn to God, you’ve already found what you want. You’ve already put words to what you want. You’ve already sort of like made your mental notes.

You made your pros and cons list. You are coming from a place of, okay, listen, God, I thought this through. I really want this, right? Does my will. align with your will. It’s a very respectful way to turn to God, and it also shows that you’re open to hearing the answers. And that’s what we want, right?

We turn to God in order to be guided, in order to get the answers. And when you ask for abundance this way, you start to get answers. And this is where we get to step three. Listen for the answer. We have all been taught to ask, most of us. Have been taught to ask, right turn to God, ask God, but they don’t teach us the skills to listen for the answer.

I want you to be open, attentive, ready to hear God’s answers, because God always gives answers. He always gives answers when you ask is scary. How quickly you get answers when you ask to be shown, right? I will say, I, you know, I had this situation a long time ago where I was praying for abundance, praying for abundance, praying for abundance.

Like, God, I want abundance. I want, you know, to make it out there. I want my business to, to work. And then one day I just like hit the table and said, Oh, I get it. I haven’t been specific. Well, listen, God, I really want six figures and I want you to show me how to get there because I don’t know how to get there myself.

I need you to put me on the right track and push me forward. And that day, everything fell into place. I found the right coach. I found the right program. I signed up. I had the money for it. Like everything fell into place within a week. When I finally said, show me, show me how, help me, guide me. So when you ask, help me, show me, guide me, and you’re specific about what you want, your next job is just to listen.

And a lot of times we listen by taking action and seeing where that goes, right? We’re not sitting around with our feet up, you know, doodling our thumbs, waiting for God to send us answers. We are going and taking action. But we’re taking action from a very attentive place where we have our eyes wide open to see is this the answer to my prayers, right?

Sometimes it could hit me in the face like a pie and I will not connect the dots. And most of us are living life like that. You have to get really intentional, really in tune. What I asked for and what’s actually happening are connected. And I can see step by step, crumb by crumb, how God is showing me the answers and guiding me to what I really want.

Okay, so listen for the answer, the skills I teach in my program, we’ll talk about that more. But it’s, it’s, it’s Such important skills. Do you know, by the way, that there used to be schools for prophets? Because prophecy wasn’t something that just happened to you one day. It was something you prepared for.

And then when the prophecy came, it was like, oh, oh, okay, cool. You know, I was ready and I heard it or I saw it. Same thing. You ready yourself. You start to get into that place where you can contain the answers and the answers start to come because that’s how God works. Okay, so we spoke about connect to yourself, ask for abundance, listen for the answer.

And now what happens is I’m doing great. I’m up here, right? I got in touch with what I want. I was like, God, I really want to, I don’t know, grow my business. I want to have a better relationship with my husband. I want to improve this part of my life, whatever it is, I was very specific.

And then I asked God and I asked him to guide me and show me and I told him why it matters to me. And then I listened for the answer and I started taking action and I started looking for the right coach and maybe I’m being guided. And I started, you know, speaking to the right people or hearing the right things.

And I’m feeling like, wow, I’m really. hearing answers. At this point, your level of consciousness is really high, right? Let’s just talk about levels of consciousness for a second. Low levels of consciousness usually look like playing in mud, throwing at everyone, blame and shame and icky and she did this to me and he did that to me and he said that and that, right?

It’s like very low consciousness and it’s very comfy. Not, but our brain tends to think that it’s safe down there, and then higher level of consciousness is being able to see things from a different perspective, being able to, sort of, understand better, connect more, have God in your life, like, really expand.

Master a higher level of consciousness is step four. It’s once you reach a higher level of consciousness through the first three steps You are now going to have a choice either you get all excited. Hey, look this thing works next What else can I want? What else can I pray for? What else can I use this method to you know?

Get me what I want And then you lost the whole point. You missed the whole exercise because you’re like running now, instead of running in a hamster wheel down here with working hard and being busy You’re working in a hamster wheel up here of like running after the next thing and the next thing and the next thing So yeah, you’re working on yourself and you’re you know self development and all that great stuff But at the end of the day if people don’t do it, right they end up running after that next high of the self development and the higher level of consciousness all the time and it’s exhausting.

It also creates that up and down rollercoaster because you’re up here and then you’re like, wow, I’m flying. The air quality up here is amazing. And look at the view. And your brain is going, wait a minute. We don’t know how to fly. What is this? I’m not used to this. Get me back down there. And you nosedive back down to the mud because that’s what your brain knows.

And that’s what it feels comfortable in and safe in. So then you’re like, why did I end up again in the mud? I’m going to go and use that tool. And I’m going to, you know, Connect to myself and I’m going to, you know, connect to God. And then I’m going to listen for the answers and start to live my life a different way.

And then you start rising up again and very quickly you find yourself flying and your brain is doing that same thing over and over again. So you end up having these really highs and lows and it’s again exhausting. So your other choice of master a higher level of consciousness is to actually master staying up there.

You start to fly, you start to see things differently, you start to experience expansion, and you start to get answers and feel more connected and things are working. And instead of looking for the next thing, You want to be able to stay to continue to master that level so it becomes your new norm so that you don’t ever have to go back down and the way to do that is by celebrating by pausing and saying, Thank you by telling your friends.

You don’t know what just happened. I wanted to go out with my husband I wish for it. I said I want to have some time with my husband and then I knew that it was impossible because he has a full day of work and I have to run errands And I don’t know how we’re gonna make this work By the way, this is a true a true story from one of the women who called me after The first time I taught this very many years ago You And she said, you won’t believe it, I asked God, I’m like, if there’s any way for us to have some time together, I would love that, because I really love hanging out with my husband, I would love that connection, and I’m really in the mood today, like, to have that presence.

And, 10 minutes later not exaggerating is exactly what she said he knocks on her door You know, they’re both working from home, but from different offices He knocks on her door to check in that she’s not in the middle of a meeting and says hey listen My two meetings just got canceled. You want to go out shopping together?

Because like you have to go shopping. Anyway, might as well do it together and have some fun She said it was mind blowing. Why? Because wow, right? So with that wow, hey, something’s working. Something’s happening. God is listening. This is amazing! Instead of being like, okay, what’s next? All right, fine. That was cool.

You really pause. And you really celebrate. And when you can pause and celebrate on every little thing that brings you up to the higher level of consciousness, what your brain starts to do is to reprogram. That is not our norm anymore down there with the mud. Now we’re up here. This is norm. This is okay.

We’re comfy here. And what happens is when you can Harness the energy that you’ve just created that higher level of consciousness that just happened the Experience that you just created when you can pull that in and really celebrate it What you’re doing is you’re using it as fuel to propel you forward

So awesome. Okay, so connect to yourself, ask for abundance, listen for the answer, master a higher level of consciousness. And when you can do that, what you just did was connect to yourself right here.

Your chest, right? Then ask for abundance is up here. Listen for the answer is right in front of you. It’s reality It’s how god speaks to us is through what is you know, why because god only does what he wants It wouldn’t be if it wasn’t his will so we look at reality in order to see what god wants And it’s really cool and I’m going to actually teach you in a second how to do this.

With your husband, okay And the last part is master a higher level of consciousness the second you created that half circle you bring it back to yourself You don’t let it Drop, you don’t let it hang you do something that brings it back you celebrate you think you tell your friends You surround yourself with the right people who get it.

Okay that You is master a higher level of consciousness.

Why does this work? Why does this work? What did we just do that worked so well? We rose above all the noise, we connected, we aligned, and it works because God is the unifier. It doesn’t matter how many things are pulling you in all directions. When everything you do is for God’s will, is for His sake, then all the things that are quote unquote pulling you are actually pulling in the right direction and all of your energy is unified to serve God.

God put me here to be a mother. He put me here to be a wife. He put me here to be here telling you this right now. He put me here to serve my clients, to light up the world, to have my podcast, to do a bunch of things that I love to do and feel called to do and if I am aligned and really connected, then I am at my very best.

And I don’t have to work harder and I don’t have to feel like I’m not enough. I am just exactly where I need to be. And that unifier is what works so well. It takes away the resentment. From everything. And I don’t have to look for doing extra or look for things. I need to take off my plate. Oh my gosh. Do you can, can we just talk about this?

Take something off your plate. If you want more space, why don’t you just get a bigger plate? That’s my biggest question to everyone. Can we just talk about this instead of telling people, take something off your plate. Because you’re, you know, you’re busy. I can see you’re busy. So take something off your plate.

Why don’t we just get a bigger plate? Create more space. That’s exactly what we do. We expand ourselves and our capacity to receive more. God has so much in store for us, and it’s us. We are the limited We are the ones that are holding ourselves back. We are the container that feels too small. And if we can work on ourselves to expand, create space, to pause, realign, unify all the parts, then what we’re doing is we are living our best selves with more capacity, with more abundance, with more tools and a bigger amplifier that can.

Amplify what we’re here to do right like the amplifier, you know that thing that used to scream through I don’t know. I just that’s what came to me. How do you react when you ask and say if hashem wants it will happen Then it all looks like it is going to happen and suddenly no did I do something wrong on the way?

That’s a great question. I’m going to answer it soon Thank you for asking, that’s a great question. So, if it’s so easy, right? I gave you four very easy steps. Connect to yourself, ask for abundance, listen for the answer, master a higher level of consciousness. It sounds fancy, tachliz, bottom line, it’s pretty simple.

So why isn’t everybody in this world walking around doing it? Why isn’t everybody connecting like this? All the time. And the answer is God baggage. This is something that I have found to be the biggest reason why we are not connected. God baggage is what we think and believe about God. That it’s impossible to connect, that I can’t lean on him, that I can’t rely on him,

that he’s too harsh, too demanding. God is scary. God is too busy. Why should he care? He has bigger fish to fry. God is distant. You know, like that big boss that just wants things from me. All these thoughts, and by the way, they’re very, very sneaky, right? And we don’t sit around saying, oh yeah, don’t worry, God has bigger fish to fry.

I mean, sometimes we do, but for the most part, we’ve been taught in school, in synagogue, or church, whatever, wherever we were, to turn to God because You know, he’s the God, but on the day to day, simple little things, it’s very hard for us to connect. If we have God baggage and all of us have God baggage, don’t feel bad.

Okay you’re normal. You’re cool. It’s something you could do something about definitely when you get intentional and you work through, but it is the thing that really blocks the abundance, it blocks your ability to expand.

All the things that we’re thinking and believing about God are not true. Because if we actually look and see, and this is very much based on The Path of the Just by Rev. Luzzatto, if we look, it’s that God wants us. God wants you. He put you here to have a relationship with you. Like, He created the entire world and all the systems and all the nature and all the things and You, so that he can have who to give to and who can give back, thank, receive, right?

Like we’re talking about receiving and opening our ability to contain. That’s all God wants. He wants to pour into us and he wants us to have the ability to contain that, the ability to receive that. And he wants your attention. So he’s going to whisper and he’s going to tap on your shoulder and he’s going to knock on the door.

He’s going to ring the bell, and sometimes he’s going to bang down the door because he wants the connection. And until he doesn’t get that connection, then you’re going to feel these annoying things, like suffering and frustrations and, like, things not working out.

God gives you everything you need. In order to shine because he put you here to shine, he put you here to light up the world and he made you the person who’s able to do that. He’s Made you who you need to become

and when you believe that you don’t want to bother god or you know That you’re insignificant to him. You don’t want to be a burden That’s farthest thing from the truth. And that’s what’s blocking you Okay, let me tell you a story about my grandmother. She broke her hip a couple of years ago and I, being the oldest granddaughter, in this special relationship with my grandmother, I call her up and I say, I’m going to come to you.

I’m going to help you with whatever you need. I’m going to cook. I’m going to clean. I’m going to pick up whatever, you know, wheelchair thing you need. Like really, just tell me what you need. I’m there. And she says to me, Nooo, Patrini, you have so much going on. You have kids, you have a life. Don’t bother, I’ll be fine.

And it’s like, yeah, but I want to come. I want to pick it up, and I want to bring it to you. And I want to come, and I want to bring you chocolate. And I want to make you happy, and I want to do some art with you. Like, tell me what you want. And she’s like, nah, it’s fine. Don’t come, don’t bother. Hello? What’s actually happening here?

Is there a relationship? Is there a connection? I’m being rejected by her thinking that I have bigger things to do, that I have more important things to do, that I am busy, that I am, you know, I don’t know, whatever. It creates distance. It rejects me. My wanting to connect and that’s what we do to god when we say no, don’t worry about it I’ll i’ll handle it.

You’ll have bigger things to do you you you deal with the big world stuff Okay, you know i’ll deal with my whatever. No, what you’re doing is rejecting god. That doesn’t feel good When god wants all he wants is to be part of your life. And what do you do say? No So who’s in whose way right? We’re in our own way It doesn’t create connection and that’s what’s called a thought error.

Okay, and when we Want to create balance? How do we create balance? We smooth out the process. We know what we want. Let’s connect to yourself We ask for abundance We listen for the answer. We master a higher level of consciousness.

You follow the crumbs You celebrate the journey and we lean on god You We learn to be with God. I once had A client who’s who worked with me for two years. It was really fun She was my first lady in my mastermind and she was with me for two years through three masterminds It was amazing and in the beginning I said, okay, let’s use the calm method What do you really want?

She says I really want to work with you I really want to join this program. That’s what she said. I said, okay, so what’s problem? Her husband says, you keep wasting money on these programs, these masterminds, these coaches, right? You keep paying money. You keep doing the things it doesn’t pay. And you promised me you wouldn’t pay for anything anymore.

That was basically her husband’s thing. And by the way, I’m sharing her story, full permission. Somebody asked me, he’s like, why are you sharing her personal story? I am a hundred percent with permission to share her story. And she even came on here and spoke about it a couple of times. It was so powerful.

What I told her, I wanted to share with you. So connect to yourself. I really want to work with you. Okay, so what do we do ask for abundance by the way connect to yourself I really want to work with you only works if you really want to work with me Don’t do it for someone else. Don’t do it because you should don’t do it because you think I want you to don’t do it for me Right don’t do it because it feels like Oh a shiny thing that sounds like good.

No, no, no, really get in touch with yourself Like does this feel right? Yeah, okay, great. Connect to yourself. So she knows she wants to work with me. Ask for abundance. Turn to God. Tell him you want to work with me. Why are you telling me? So we wrote together a short prayer, really three sentences, not anything gigantic, and I said, now listen for the answer.

She went to her husband and said, I really want to work with her. I really want to join this program. And he says, what are you going to do? I already said, you promised you won’t pay for it. And, it’s not going to do anything. All these other things that you signed up for and all these things you have on your computer saved for one day, like, why is this different?

She says, you know what? But Trent says to ask God. So we’re going to ask God, cause it’s from him. And if I want something and God wants to give it to me, it will happen. So, they agreed on praying for it and seeing what happens. And I think it was two or three days later, I don’t remember the exact details, but it was very soon after.

A client of hers, who owed her a lot of money, paid her for three months of the program. Like, a big chunk. And her husband was left with his mouth open, being like, you have to. Sign up for this program. And it was so funny how it came from him. And since then, he got a job. Then he got a better job. He started seeing all this success.

And it’s just because she rubs off on him. And it was the coolest thing to watch. So she expanded. She expanded her business. She got better clients. She’s doing really well. And she even says, like, you know, one of her testimonials is, I found freedom. Real freedom from Vampire clients who sucked out all of my energy.

She says about herself that she used to be a workaholic and she would stay up late and work, work, work, work, and then be exhausted. She didn’t have patience for her kids. She got herself a dryer because she never wanted to get a dryer because she thought I don’t know, she wasn’t deserving of having an easy life or something that was a thought error we were able to fix, in one session and it changed her life.

Like all these little things that happened in her life, she says now that two years later, or actually now it’s been already three years, whatever it was,

she has such freedom she didn’t even know existed. Because she was so stuck in where she thought was that this is how you have to run your business This is how you have to run your life This is how much it has to take out of you and there’s something really amazing there So this is one of those things that you know if you want practical examples of how to use the calm method, this is one of them Connect to yourself know exactly what you want I’m going to give you another example.

If you’re in a fight and all you want is peace, right? I don’t want to be in this fight. I just want peace. Ask God, please help me put the right words in my mouth. Show me how to create peace. Show me what I need to do. Right? Help him see that all I want is peace. And very, very quickly things start to turn around because God always answers and it always works out.

It’s so crazy. Now, somebody will say, yeah, but it doesn’t always work out. And this is some of the things that came in. Even when it doesn’t work out, God is showing you, I have something better for you. Okay? God only has three answers. Yes, not now. And I have something better for you. Sometimes it’s just about timing.

Right? I’ve had people who were listening to my podcast for two years until they hired me because they just needed that time But when it was right, it was right and sometimes it’s I have something better for you If it’s not working out, it means I have something over there and I’ll guide you to it I’m not gonna leave you hanging but stay with me here, right?

Those are the only three answers. There’s never no I don’t want to give it to you cuz man, right? No, it never works like that. God is is awesome So now I want you. To make it stick because I want you to create balance for real, right? My business is connected for real by the way connected because i’m up here very very connected to god But also super practical and very for real.

I don’t do like fluff stuff. It has to be in reality that’s also why i’m very into marriage and business because those are very practical and very real and allow you to See god through this world. It’s very cool, right? so What most people do is they skip the practice, the implementation. It’s like, it’s one thing to know the method and to sort of practice it on your own and see it sort of working.

It’s another thing to really. Use it, really master it. And I don’t want you to be in this like middle of the night, swirling around with making a decision, not really knowing what to do, waking up the next morning and having no clarity. And then feeling like, Oh, I have no one to turn to. I get it. I was there.

And that’s why I created my coaching. My private coaching is only program that I have seen. Integrate both marriage and business, God and you, those are by the way the four pillars of what we talk about, God is at the core, your marriage, your business, your life, work together towards that unifying core and you are the container that holds it all.

You get to expand to allow for more space, to allow for more abundance and that is what I do. In my three month program, so I’d like to invite you to work with me. It’s called Balance For God’s Sake. It’s three months private coaching program and it’s designed to create balance in all the parts of your life so you can go for your biggest dreams in alignment and with guidance.

What’s included, I’m going to give you the details, but basically you get three months with me. There is six VIP one on one sessions that we do. They’re intense, they’re one hour of real work. We do sometimes guided meditation that I make up on the spot. We talk through what’s actually happening. We bring God into the situation.

We get answers. We get clarity. Real magic happens there. You can look at some of the testimonials on the page, it’s so funny. Some people are like, how do you do that? It’s like, very cool. It’s very cool what happens in those sessions. So you get every other week from, in those, three months and between sessions, any time you need anything, you have WhatsApp support.

You can send me. Hey, I’m having a bad day. I need a pep talk or hey, my husband just said this and it really bugs me I don’t know what to say. I don’t know what to do. I’m annoyed. I’m whatever right whatever is coming up bring it my way It’s one of my favorite ways to coach. I can very quickly Put you back on the right track put you back in the right direction and you don’t have to wait until the next time we meet in order to You know Get back on the wagon.

Okay, so there’s the six sessions During the three months which comes out to every other week and then there’s also What’s up support 24 7 obviously, it’s not instantaneous I am human and I do have eight kids, but I do get back to you pretty soon after you send it and if I don’t Remind me, like, you know, push it up by saying something like, Hey, can you answer this?

Because it, it really barely ever happens that I miss answering. Okay, so that’s what you get. Another thing you get is the entire curriculum from the masterminds that I ran. I ran a mastermind called flow for women in business who are in established businesses and creating flow. I ran one that’s called find for women who are just starting out.

So there’s a whole curriculum on that. And I ran the fly, which was just focused on marriage and helped you really, really hone in on the marriage and make it. A completely different experience, like a real transformation. The idea is that you can completely change the trajectory of where your life is going when you start, when things are okay, and tweak it.

And it’s going to be a lot easier than having to wait until it’s, almost too late and then moving the needle. Of course, I have helped people who were in that space too. But I’m telling you, it’s really beautiful that I, I tend to attract women who have, good, decent, okay marriages. And they think they’re at a nine or a 10 in their marriage because yeah, it’s pretty good, you know, compared to other people.

But what they don’t realize is after we work together, they’re like, what I thought was a nine or 10 turned out to be a two. Like this now is a 10 and it’s mind blowing. I didn’t even know it existed. It was beyond my, It’s a way of understanding and grasping, okay. So it’s amazing what you can do. If you think, you know, if you think you’re good, there’s great.

And that’s what I’m here for. Okay. So after three months in this program, you’ll own your priorities. You’ll have healthy boundaries. You’re going to have an easier time making decisions. You’re going to have better conversations about money. You’re going to experience quality time with your husband and your kids.

You’re going to feel closer to God like never before.

You’re creating balance by strengthening the core. That’s what lights me up.

Your investment for the three months private coaching is 2, 500. There are payment plans. The one that tends to be the most popular is 50 a week for 50 weeks, you put it on and you forget about it and you get results right now. Right? It’s not a membership. You don’t stop it in the middle. You’re paying the full amount, but you’re getting the results instantly.

It’s extremely powerful and people who have gone through it are blown away by the time they get to the , the second ish month is like, how did we do that so quickly?

So, let’s talk about some bonuses, okay, because I love the program and I also see that there is companion bonuses that really help you when you’re just starting out, especially by the way, now with the timing, because we’re going into the holidays, we’re going to start working right after the holidays. So, anybody who joins now is actually going to get access to the curriculum.

Early, as soon as you sign up and you have more than a month to watch, to learn, to implement, to see how it works for you. And then by the time we start working together, you’re already in a different place completely and we’re speaking the same language. So it’s really, really exciting. So that’s a bonus that’s happening just now because of the timing.

And on top of that. There are two bonuses that work really well if you want to start with something very specific. And because I focus on marriage and on business, I have a bonus on marriage and a bonus on business. The bonus on marriage is the Intimacy Masterclass. It’s a masterclass I created a couple years ago of what you wish you were told that nobody taught you and nobody talks about.

And it’s about how to get in the mood, why is my husband not in the mood? You know, how do I actually get it to work and to feel better? And how do I make this part of my life? Feel as successful as other parts of my life, right? If I’m doing well in business and I have friends and I’m doing great with all these other things But then this feels like it’s lagging behind.

How do I? Create balance. How do I bring this up and feel really good about it, right? I call it success behind closed doors. The intimacy masterclass is So powerful and it has a bonus of its own which is sort of, you know, not something I talk about a lot But it’s really powerful. It’s a two hour questions and answers with a therapist that answers Everything we have something like 33 questions that were asked that we both addressed and it’s mind blowing amazing if you’re Joining and the first thing you want to attack or tackle is the intimacy You Go for it.

This is the bonus that you’re going to start with and then you’re going to start watching Whatever, you know, there are Sessions, there are trainings. There are meditations There’s a whole meditation library where you can just pick a meditation And it’s amazing the other bonus is run your business like god runs the world.

It’s a mini course You It is a bunch of sessions that I did and am doing. I keep adding to it. There’s time management, there’s systems, delegation, and automation. All these different parts of your business that tend to feel big, heavy, overwhelming. And we take it from the angle of, do it like God does it, right?

Like, let’s first see how it works. God runs his world and let’s emulate that and allow it to be easy bring God into our businesses in a way that works and allows us to Have our business work for us and not the other way around Okay, so that is that bonus and as I said the third and most important bonus in my opinion is the extra time so you are paying for three months, but really you are getting You Everything from right now until november 1st, and then we start meeting every other week and really seeing that Rhythm start to take shape the way to Sign up is to schedule a call with me I don’t mind letting you just sign up like this and if you are that type of person who just likes to let’s go I know this is right for me.

I want to just do it then great You could find a link in the emails to do that but I do want to offer you a discovery call. I call it deep dive discovery call because it is an entire coaching session, an hour long that is completely free because I want to make sure that this is right for you. I want to make sure that I can help you reach those bigger dreams that you are the right fit.

If I don’t see that you’re the right fit, I will tell you straight out, I love you. I don’t want you to do anything that’s not good for you. And together we’re going to ask a lot of questions, collect all the puzzle pieces, and then we’re going to build a roadmap that is unique to you. So even if you don’t end up working with me, you end up knowing what to do next.

And it is. Really, really powerful. Could you write down how much it is, please? Yes, 2, 500 is 2, 500 that you can pay in one time, in two parts, in four parts, in many parts, 50 weeks. You can decide how many you want. And I don’t charge interest because this is the way I get to do a little bit more extra good in the world.

Thank you. Okay, so I know some people are going to say, but I can’t afford it. God can afford it. Okay. I can’t afford it, but God is running the world and he’s the source of everything. And if I can use the calm method to connect to God and ask him, how can I afford this? Show me, guide me, explain to me, then God will show you.

And it happens over and over again that people are just like, wow. That’s pretty mind blowing because when you ask and when you’re ready to be shown you are shown Okay, and it’s really powerful okay.

It’s also somewhat scary to realize our royal godly essence and to receive infinite abundance. It’s an enormous responsibility to be God’s child. Yes, but also, it’s easy, right? How hard is it to be a baby or a kid? It’s not. Like, my, my mother in law jokes that it, oh, it’s, you know, it’s so hard to be three years old.

But like, really? Really, we make it, heavier and more difficult than it needs to be. Find ease. Bring God into your life and find ease. This is what we do in our sessions, is how do I let this be easy? How do I allow God into my life so he shows me and I don’t have to guess, so that I’m not throwing spaghetti at the wall, so that I’m not feeling helpless and just like, lost?

I want that. I want to just let it be easy, right? There is this innocence that children have that if we can tap into that and just be with God, then life is so much simpler and it’s fun. One of the things I love mindy Wiesner from Australia is one of the women who is now finishing the three months with me.

And she left a beautiful testimonial video that you can watch. But basically what she says is, I signed up with Revitsyn to take my business to the next level without understanding what it really meant. All I knew was that this was scary and impossible. And she says, I had looked. Into other business coaches and they were terribly expensive and offer half of what the Reviton offered with results as the focus. The other business People they’re like results results results. They don’t take your life into account. They don’t care, right? So that’s what she’s saying with results as the focus and Hashem not in the picture You The Reviton doesn’t do overwhelm and doesn’t let you do it either.

She breaks up everything into doable steps and makes the impossible possible in the funnest way ever. And what I love that Mindy says is that we’re very different in our personality and having me around has really lightened up her attitude about her business and about life in general and she’s learned to Show up in all the different parts of her life, which is really awesome.

Really really awesome. So I just thought of that now I’ll read you some of the other testimonials Jennifer back at e. She is one of my Christian clients and I love that We can all have this unity and feel so good working together. So she says I started working with batran since last fall and the guidance and support i’ve received from her have been Invaluable as a newly married person living in atlanta, georgia She’s been helping me navigate my new life And adjust some old thinking patterns that have not served me well.

My word of this year is elevate. And the coaching I’ve received from her so far has helped me to do just that. Both in my marriage and as an individual. But trans unique and inspired style brings a lightness and brightness that is infectious. And I’m most grateful for this divine connection. So I’m so happy.

I’m so happy. Jennifer is one of the most awesome people. You know, Jennifer is a good example of someone who has a good marriage and has a good life, her business is doing well, and every time we meet, there is a breakthrough, because she has this openness to make it even better. That I just love.

I just love it. I love it. Mara Lesner is one of my newer clients as well. When I sent out an email asking my paying clients if they could leave me at Testimonial, she was so excited to do it. By the way, Mara Lesner from Mara Inc. Specializes in helping non profits get

more visible and express what they do better so that people actually know what they do and are able to support them in a better way. So how to get more volunteers, how to get more donations, how to get your word out, right? She’s amazing. So anyway, I am so grateful to be working with Reviton Batran Grossman.

Her words resonate with me and are helping me grow my self confidence, business, and relationships with my husband and God. I enjoy the meditations and take away ideas from them that I try to implement. On a personal note, I’m seeing my husband’s perspective more clearly, which is very helpful too.

I really appreciate that Revit’s Engrossment is accessible by WhatsApp and has guided me through fine tuning my offerings, sending proposals, and figuring out rates. She has really held my hand and is supporting me in the four areas she focuses on, self, business, marriage, and God. They all improve exponentially.

If you have the opportunity, run. Don’t walk to sign up and work with her. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you. Revit’s engrossment. You are welcome, Mara. I love her. I have to show you this. I’m going to actually share screen for one second because I have to show you this picture. It’s so cute.

This is so fun. There is a picture that I have to show you because when I said send me a testimonial, this is what she sent.

Jodi Sugar is a photographer and she is multi passionate and she is so awesome. We worked together in the mastermind and she said, I can’t believe I made more money and I’m working less. I love that she gets me and knows how to help me thrive with my personality. Guys, Jodi Sugar is so creative and so awesome and so smart about money and about success, but she was feeling like a mess.

In her personality in her inside and it was so fun to watch how that unraveled and Freed her up to be the wife. She wants to be the mother. She wants to be the business owner She created things and she really flourished It was like you see her hands That’s it. That’s The result and it’s so fun while i’m here already.

I also want to show you what it looks like to work with me on whatsapp These are some examples of screenshots i’ve taken from whatsapp. People are saying I love working with you I’m gonna keep listening to this over and over again all day because it made my day this is perfect advice. I’m, so glad I asked you.

You know already getting answers without even asking right after a session this woman got a call You For exactly what we talked about in the session. It was so fun. There’s a lot of clients that don’t want to be shown because they obviously are you know, it’s their personal life and I respect that.

But just looking at these WhatsApps and these messages, you can see what’s actually happening in the coaching and how powerful it is. And I want you to see that so you can really appreciate it. Okay. So, this is Balance for God’s Sake, three months, private coaching program, I welcome you to come and join me, it’s 2, 500, you can pay in one time, you can pay in installments,

and if you have any questions about how to make this work or is this for me, now is the time to ask and also, you’re welcome to schedule a discovery call and we can work it together, we can find the answers together. Okay, let’s answer some questions that are coming in now. I am not married.

Can I join? No, sorry. I will gladly give you names of coaches who work with singles, divorced, widowed, non married women. I only work with married women. It’s my specialty and it is my job. My purpose in this world. So that is what I am very clear about The other question to that by the way, which a lot of people ask is I’m not in business Can I work with you and the answer is yes The marriage part I don’t move on but the business side.

I really open it up to You know success to I have one client who’s a doctor one client who works for A company and is doing really well. One of my clients is the top of whatever Department she is and she has people working under her so we help her in the role that she’s in So when it comes to business, I don’t really care if you’re in business or not if you’re creative if you are figuring out life and you just have passions and legacy that you want to leave behind and you want to focus on that.

That’s totally cool. My goal for you is that you expand your capacity, allow God’s presence into your life, allow the abundance to really seep into all the parts of your life and create that integration All the different roles that you carry all the different hats that you wear. Okay, because I want you to feel that strong core the alignment the ability to Do what you are here to do without feeling scattered Without feeling pulled without the guilt without the shame without like, oh, you know I wish something else like no Really in alignment, really focused. My husband isn’t into it. I totally get you. Normal husbands are. You know their husbands, so here’s a couple of things that you can do number one first use the calm method Connect to yourself. The last thing husbands like is to have to make your decision for you So if you come to your husband and say I don’t know I heard this great thing And it really sounds like it could help me.

What do you think? So your He’s going to be like, no, right? Because he doesn’t want to make your decision for you. And it’s much easier to say no than to say yes. It’s also very not attractive when you come to him for his last day type of thing. So connect to yourself, find out what you want, find out why you want it.

Find out that it’s really yours. Right? Ask for abundance, bring God into it. Before you turn to your husband, before you tell him, before you talk to him, bring God into it. Talk to God, walk it through, say what you want and what’s the pros and cons and why this is really right for you, and then approach your husband and that would be the listen for the answer.

Your husband is just a messenger. If it has to happen, it will happen. And if it doesn’t have to happen, it won’t happen. And it doesn’t have to cause a fight and it doesn’t have to be a big deal. It just is. Your husband is part of the reality that you’re listening for. I’ll give you an example, by the way, at the same time that Tamima spoke to her husband and got the, yes, a different woman.

Spoke to her husband and got a blow up no. You always want to use up my money. You’re never appreciative of what I have. You’re, oh, anytime I have anything, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, right? You’re always looking to spend my money. And he screamed at her like crazy. And then she said, Oh, okay. Thank you. That was the answer I was looking for.

I just wanted to know, yes, yes, no, no. And he was like shocked and she says she was so not phased by his response She just was like, okay, I guess it’s a no walked away Came back and said listen. My husband said no So what do I do now? I said, okay. Well, there is no no from God It’s just not now or I have something better for you.

So just keep looking for what’s better and She ended up finding something local that was more appropriate for what she needed and it was covered by insurance I don’t know what whatever it was like a support group and she was able to get on her way to Creating the results she wanted she didn’t give up on her stuff and she wasn’t fazed She says that if this was in the past before she knew the calm method, this would explode into an entire fight.

You control me. You control my money. You never let me have anything I want. And he would say, you always want to use up my money. And then they would fight for two days, not talk to each other. He would sleep on the couch or she would sleep in the other room. And eventually they would just like, and of course it would take a toll on their kids.

It would make a big deal about, you know, All the family politics and she said it was crazy how it didn’t phase her because she was so aligned Using the calm method. So, you know, it’s nice to hear that all these people are getting guesses But I just want you to realize there are times where the answer is gonna be not now or I have something better for you And that’s fine because we don’t take it back.

We don’t throw it back to our husband be like, oh, yeah Oh, okay fine, you know and it left him Totally hanging he was like What? So that’s really funny and thank god like i’ve been following her because I know her and and she’s been updating me about how she’s doing and it’s really fun to see how God has really guided her to do the exact thing for her and and how to make her marriage and her life feel more aligned and in balance why now?

Why now? I you know, you tell me why now? I can give you a lot of answers but i’d love for you to tell me why is now the best time so number one time wise Instead of just getting three months you get almost five months right because you get The extra time with the curriculum if you want to use one of the six sessions right away to get you moving, you could totally do that.

I could show you how. Having the extra time with the curriculum, just even if it’s just to turn on a meditation that takes seven minutes is amazing. It’s hard to explain the value of something you’ve never tasted before, but the guided meditations give you so much clarity about what to do next, or help you really align.

There is one meditation that I’m actually going to do live, for anybody who signs up before the holidays. That’s going to be a group thing. So you know, just letting you know up front, but this is also a bonus that I’m thinking about. And, this is the first time I said it out loud, but I really am feeling called to do for all of my clients and the new ones that are coming in is the meditation that I do about clearing your pipeline and allowing new abundance to come in through this new year. So definitely. This is a good time to sign up just for that. And if you don’t sign up now, then what? Some some people say oh now it’s not a good time. I’ll find a different time. There’s never a good time There’s never a good time and your brain is going to come up with every excuse why it’s not a good time First of all, oh there’s a holiday coming.

There’s always a holiday coming. Okay Don’t give me that. You know hectic times my kids my this my that there’s too many things You know too many moving parts if you sign up Before these moving parts and the hectic starts, you go into dealing with that, from a place of calm and ease and inner peace.

And you are a different person dealing with these these old challenges that you’re already foreseeing. Right? You’re like, Oh, there’s going to be a hectic whole, you know, holiday season coming up. I can’t deal with it. And actually it’s amazing how one session can completely change your attitude about all of that stress and allow you to let it flow and allow you to really create balance on the spot.

Wouldn’t that be amazing? Another reason why now is a better time than later is because the sooner you start, the faster you get results. And the easier it is to move the needle on things that could get worse later. Right, like the trajectory is much easier to align and to adjust when things are just underground, uncomfortable, or elephant in the room, or walking on eggshells.

Much, much more than if later it gets more painful, more stressful, more upsetting, and then suddenly we’re dealing with explosions and emotions and back and forth. So, now is better than later. And if you are already in that later where things are explosive and getting really tight and uncomfortable, then now is a good time!

Because now is all you have. Okay? Like, you could wait till later, but why wait? Why continue suffering? Really, honestly.

I Honestly was almost going to cancel today because I had a headache and I wasn’t feeling good And then I did a meditation and the meditation God showed me That this is what i’m here for and this is what I need to do And he’s going to put the right words in my mouth and he’s going to give me Everything I need in order to do it and I want to I want to publicly thank God for getting me through this, and with so much energy, I did not even know I had inside me when I started.

So thank you, God, and thank you for coming and for watching and for staying.

It feels really good to say that. Okay. Let me tell you about this deep dive discovery call. It’s really awesome. You get 60 minutes. It’s an actual coaching call. I’m not going to sell you anything hard. I’m just going to help you find clarity. If it works, that we can work together.

Great. I’m going to welcome you in and introduce, whatever you need, answer any questions. If it’s not good for you, I’m going to tell you straight out because I love you and I’m not here to work with people who are not the right fit. We’re going to create a personalized plan for you. So either way, it’s a win win, okay? So I look forward to meeting you in our one on one session. Okay. Love you all. All the best